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Are swingers moral? - Who determines what morals are? - Neuroscience makes morality out to be largely born in and more complicated than just "stuff god doesn't like". For example, what one may see as an immoral act may in fact be quite honorable to someone in that person's in group. A gang banger seems immoral when he kills a rival gang member but a soldier is doing the same thing except that we call the gangs nations. What religion manages to do is take false credit for morality so that it can attach additional memes on so we get motivated to do those too. This amounts to "lying is bad so sex must be bad too". The problem with buying into that logic is that not everything churches say are bad actually are and can even override true morality. For instance, a religious hatred of homosexuals. This doesn't always happen and there are many influencing factors (again morality is quite complicated according to neuroscience) but it is often a potent driving factor. The short answer is that the more people you include in your in group the more people you will act morally toward.

flintstones swingers ? yes or no - - I'm trying to figure out when I thouth I might want to be a swinger . I think I have traced it back to the flintstones . any thoughts ?? Everyone knows that Barney and Fred were swapping Betty and Willma. I blame Hanna Barbera and thats my story. whats yours ?

Swingers In Uniform - Pay your memorial day respects here. - Juan probably watched Farenheit 911 and thinks himself and intellectual now. Facts, to this crowd, though interesting, are irrelevant. I believe the only rich white fat man to profit directly from 911 is Micheal Moore. Per Southpark and Team America: Go USA. Go Broncos. America, fuck yeah.

Why are there so many swingers from Utah? - - Well I think that all of the bases have been covered. Swingular is run out of Utah, it's conservative, we have built up tenstion, the religion... the fact of the matter is WE (As A Couple) are not sure why Swingular is so populated with Utahns. We aren't sure if we even really care. All we do know is that we're loving this site and we thank GOD that there are so many Utahns, because if there wasn't, we'd be S. O. L. We're a happy couple of newbies here. :D D & F

RECOGNIZING OTHER SWINGERS - Outside of clubs & parties. - I think one of the characters in Madagascar had an upside pineapple.

Swingers Dares - Text for cards in the game - Great ideas...

Evil's latest poll. Fellas, would you ever... - - [quote=CHEFFETTE][quote=EVILDOERS]Naw. Not tryin' to be the Soup...er Sex Nazi. Just wanted to try to understand where some of the attitudes about male bisexuality and swinging come from. I find it extremely interesting how much homophobia still exists in the world and how much exists in a community of people dedicated to sexual freedom. I find human nature fascinating and especially when that nature is something that is more or less taught rather than innate. [/quote]In the three months + I've been reading here all I can come up w/ to explain certain members' homophobia and continued, idiotic comments is this is a male-dominated swinger site and in my experience males feel more threatened by the potential they're perceived as something they don't want to be seen as; you'd think that w/ as much time as they spend w/ their own cock in their hand every single day they'd be less terrified of a cock belonging to another guy, but apparently they must declaim it at every turn or they'll go sterile/bald/teh gayz w/o even TRYING.[/quote] If I were from Maine, I'd say "Ahyup". As I told a girl a couple days back when we were talking about "Sexual Fluidity" by Lisa Diamond, when she said she'd heard that Diamond is working on a new study along the same lines, but on men instead of women, I doubted she'd find much there because, for whatever reason, society has a much more severe taboo against male-male sex than it does against female-female sex. The taboo against women with women was once nearly as strong, but since probably sometime in the '60s it has become much less so. And you're surrounded by society's attitudes, and they're pounded into your head from they day you're old enough to understand anything. And the stronger a taboo, and male-male sex is one of the strongest, the more unlikely it is that you'll get ever rid of it. Physically, sex is a matter of friction properly applied to the correct parts of the body, ultimately resulting in orgasm. So the sex of the person applying it, or to whom you're applying it, really shouldn't matter. But it does. I have absolutely zero homophobia. If I'm in bed with more than one person, and some guy's hand touches me someplace for a second I won't freak out or even care. I understand that I've been socialized into how I feel, and that if I'd grown up in, for example, ancient Greece, I wouldn't have been. I understand that the prohibition of male-male sex grew out of humanity needing to expand as quickly as possible in order to survive, and that the cultural attitudes which that created got written into religions as they developed. I know that there's absolutely no logical reason for it. I know that the "logical" arguments against homosexual sex are nonsense. Like "it isn't natural - you don't see homosexual animals." Bullshit. Yes you do, all the time. I have a hen who's always humping the other hens. She doesn't accomplish anything, but she does it. One of the animals that is genetically closest to humans, the Benobo, a type of chimpanzee, has sex all the time with members of its band (the true swingers of the animal world), male or female, doesn't matter. I know that physically, biologically, there's no reason sex with one sex shouldn't work as well as with the other. I have a really good friend who is a pre-op male to female transexual, and if she ever has the surgery, and becomes physically female below as well as above the waist, sure I'd have sex with her if she wanted to. And I have other friends who are lesbian or gay. And I even belong to and volunteer for HRC (Human Rights Council). I should be a prime candidate for bisexuality. But no, I would not suck someone's dick. Or want some guy sucking mine. Even though I understand that that feeling has been socialized into me, that it probably wasn't predetermined when I was born male, still it's there, and it is what it is. The more emphatically something is socialized into you as you grow up, the less likely it is that you'll ever break away from it, even if you do manage to get away from some of the other things you were "taught". And I think that, Evil is your answer. ~ Terry

Single Men Meeting Couples - Are Single Men Treated Un Fairly In The Lifestyle - ______________________________________________________________________________ ** "Swinging" is just a different word for "swapping" and you can't swap if you bring nothing to the table. ** ______________________________________________________________________________ NOT. Swinging is absolutely NOT about simply swapping. DON JUAN was absoltely correct. The women are NOT commodities to be traded amongst the men in the clubs and at the parties, but many of you devalue yourselves by assuming that submissive role. Swinging is about choice. Thats is why the term "lifestyle" was coined in the early 80's; it's a way of life. If a single man is not to be considered a "real" swinger, then single women should not be considered "real" swingers either. What more does a single woman have to bring to the table than a single man? Do you think that these women do not represent the same set of issues that the men do? The clubs, the parties, the events...these activities are driven by the WOMEN who particpate. The clubs will allow single women in for next to nothing for a couple of good reasons. The first of which is obvios; without a room full of hot women dressed in almost nothing, you would have a room full of nt so hot men, all standing around waiting for the woen to arrive. It would be like a middle school dance. Or a gay club full of str8 men. The second reason is even more simple. They attract MEN who spend MONEY. Single MEN and married MEN alike. The lifestyle is financed by MEN. MEN who are willing to pay TOP dollar for the chance to meet with couples in the club. And let's face it, the guys who can afford to go on a regular basis are really the ones (if you are interested in single men anyway) that you would want to meet with, unlike a towel shark from the local adult arcade. MEN who accompany their wives to the club to meet with other couples for the evening. These married men often spend (on average) $200 to $300 in a single night. WOMEN are the EYE CANDY that keeps the party going. MEN do not want to go to a party that is full of other MEN, but they want to see EYE CANDY. So they are willing to pay to do it. Mrs. Luvbugs! is a bartender, and a good one at that. She makes more part time than most degreed professionals (including me! humph!) do working full time. Why? She is very attractive. She is outgoing. She knows her stuff. She understands that SEX SELLS, and that her clients are there to see HER as much as drink a jack and coke. I have seen men sit at her bar, stare at her all night, run up a $100 tab, and leave her $30. Thats average...do that 20 to 30 times a night and what do you get? All for the privelege of being served by HER. I wouldnt do it, even if I were single. But then, I dont have to either, so who knows? THEY constitute the LION SHARE of her business, and her livelyhood. The lifestyle is not different. We need these guys at the clubs. We need them to pay for memberships on our websites. They too are the oil that lubes the machine. Sorry, but thats how it is. Luvbugs! (mR.) ;)

BUSTED! Your Kids Found Out Your Swingers. Now What? - - When we first got in this lifestyle 15 yrs ago a couple we were seeing told our daughter. She said she was drunk and didnt know what she said but thats another story. Soon what my daughter knew my son found out. We just sat down with our kids and explained to them what our needs where and what and why we do this. Our daughter totally was exceptable and my son just chooses to ignore that fact. As far as family I dont know if they know or not but if they do they are all open minded enough we wouldnt expect any problems. Dave and Jackie

Lingo - - AC/DC Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual. ADULT Euphemism for pornographic. ALL CULTURES Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE) AMERICAN CULTURE Man on top, the missionary position. ANAL SEX Anal intercourse; see Greek, Greek Culture. ANALINGUS Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other. ANIMAL TRAINING Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality ARTS Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures B&D or B/D Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) BBW Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive. BHM Big Handsome Man; Referring to men that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very handsome. BESTIALITY (see ANIMAL TRAINING) BI Bisexual: Versatile(see AC/DC) BI-CURIOUS A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities. BIZARRE Unusual sexual desires BONDAGE A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive." CAN ENTERTAIN Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging. CAN TRAVEL Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing. CANING A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood. CHEATING Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent. CLEAN Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases. CLOSED DOOR (see CLOSED SWINGING) CLOSED SWINGING Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy. CLOSET SWINGER A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET) COUPLE In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes. CPL (see COUPLE) CUCKOLD While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition. CULTURE Euphemism for Fetish or Arts. CUNNILINGUS Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE) DILDO An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus. DIRECTOR The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager. DISCIPLINE A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings. DISCREET OR DISCRETION Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity. DOCILE Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE). DOMESTIC TRAINING Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature. DOMINANT A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner. ENGLISH CULTURE: Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning ENTERTAIN (see CAN ENTERTAIN) EXHIBITIONIST Behaviour in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched. F Female FELLATIO Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth. FETISH Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy. FLAGELLATION Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking. FRENCH CULTURE: Oral-genital sexual activity; see Fellatio, Cuntilingus FUN AND GAMES Euphemism for sexual activity. GAY A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian. GBM Gay Black Male GENEROUS Refers to money for sex. GREEK CULTURE: Anal-penile intercourse GROUP ROOM Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM). GROUP SEX Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people. GWM Gay White Male HARD CORE A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected. HARD SWINGING (see HARD CORE) HEAD Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see French) HEDONIST Someone who lives for pleasure. HETEROSEXUAL Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex. HOMOSEXUAL Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY) HORNY Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure. HUNG Refers to a man with a large penis. HWP Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight. INDOOR Swinging activities in general INDOOR SPORTS (See INDOOR) INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. IRL In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat ISO In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female LEATHER A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments. LESBIAN A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY) LTR Long Term Relationship MARITAL AIDS Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others. MASOCHISM Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others. MASTER/SLAVE Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) MATROOM Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM). MEET FOR PLEASURE Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity. MENAGE A' TROIS Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD) MORESOMES More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX) MBC Married Black Couple MBiC Married Bisexual Couple MWC Married White Couple NASCA The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research. NEWCOMERS New people in swinging; First-timers. NONSMOKER Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes. OFF-PREMISE No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers. OPEN DOOR (see OPEN SWINGING) OPEN SWINGING A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy. ORAL-GENITAL (see FRENCH, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD) ORGY Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete abscence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex. PARTY Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging. PARTY CLOTHES Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play. PARTY HOUSE (Western US) A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. PASSIVE Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE) PHOTO Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others. PHOTOGRAPHY Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs. P/P Photo and phone number (used in personal ads). PRO Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts. RECREATIONAL SWINGER A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment. RESTRAINT Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments. ROMAN Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE) ROMAN CULTURE: Sexual orgies RUBBER Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D. SAFE Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile. S.A.S.E. Self-addressed stamped envelope. SBF Single Black Female SBiF Single Bisexual Female SBM Single Black Male SGL (see SINGLE) S&M or S/M Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM). SINGLE A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status. SOCIAL A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social. SOCIAL SWING CLUB A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important. SODOMY Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner. SOFT SWINGERS Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse. SOFT SWINGING The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE). SRS Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING). STD Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem. STR or STR8 (see STRAIGHT) STRAIGHT Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people. SUBMISSIVE Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive) SWAPPING Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. SWEDISH CULTURE: Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another SWF Single White Female SWING MAGAZINE A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community. SWINGING An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved. SWINGING LIFESTYLE Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships. SWINGING MARRIAGE Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals. SWM Single White Male TAN Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS) THREESOME Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois) TICKET A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing. TOYS Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS) TRANSEXUAL Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion TRANSVESTITE A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual. TRAVEL (see CAN TRAVEL) TRIAD Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome. TRIOLISM Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD) TUBAL LIGATION Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation. UTOPIAN SWINGER A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals. VASECTOMY Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male. VERSATILE Bisexual. (see AC/DC) VIBRATOR Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another. VOLUPTUOUS Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips. VOYEUR A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts. VOYEURISM Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity. WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional. Hope this helps :)_