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Staying a couple in the lifestyle - - Our experience so far:
Religious > naturist > meet naturists/nudists who are swingers > soft swap > non-religious > full swap with couples same room > full swap separate room
Many lifestyle couples we know have followed a very similar path.
The rest of some of their evolution concerns us, especial polyamorous couples, triples, etc.
The tendency seems to be (very generalized) is to date and play separately. If the relationship becomes polyamorous, divorce seems VERY common.
We like having more than physical chemistry. Personality and interests are part of the package, but it is difficult to get an 8 way connection (chemistry between all 4 people).
We actually like the friendships more than playing, so we are comfortable where we are at the moment.
Thoughts?
Other activities? - Do you only meet swingers for sex? - No it is not just for sex although that is a really fun part of it. Some of the things we have done with couples that we swing with inlude, going out to dinner, go to a movie together, go to a play, go to a concert, go shoot some pool toether, go bowling, invite them up to our cabin for the weekend (yes we have had couples come spend an entire weekend at the cabin and not play even though we had before and since). We like to go hiking together, fix a fun dinner in at our place in town or at the cabin and enjoy. Other things have included some plane old fashioned helping out stuff like working equipment or building something.
Lots of things we like besides fun and frolic in the bedroom, but we like that too.
Party Etiquette - How do people manage risks? - Mr here. So, the party that we went to before Halloween was a good party. It seemed much like another orgy that I participated in a few years ago, except this time I had Ms. Honeybunny with me :) That made me a little more aware of how people were interacting with each other, and I have a few questions about etiquette in those situations.
Obviously, protection is important for a number of reasons, and pretty much everybody there was using condoms, cleaning toys after use, etc.
However, one thing that I did not notice anybody using was dental dams or any kind of protection for oral sex. In a world where 70% of Americans have some form of herpes, for example, how do you deal with the risk of contracting it if you don't? Or what if you have other STDs? I would hope that if you have a temporary STD like chlamydia you would avoid lifestyles events until it cleared up, but nobody was talking about it. What if you have a more permanent STD, like the herpes mentioned above? Or AIDS? Or HPV? Two of those are really common, but also relatively harmless; do people just assume that other swingers do/don't have them or that the risk in not meaningful? I didn't really hear anybody talking about it, but I"m not sure if that's unusual or not. What's the typical protocol for situations like that?
Also, now that I'm thinking about it. What would be the protocol if you DID pick something up from an event?
Small Penises in the Lifestyle - - Being a guy who is 'blessed,' I can tell you a few things:
1.) I am [b]NOT[/b] user friendly...A little bit hard to handle for some.
2.) THere are some playgrounds I am not invited to, anal is [b]NEVER[/b] offered nor OK'd.
3.) Once people know about my size, I become a walking penis.
4.) Do NOT believe what people say about size, the ruler used by swingers is missing, on average, about 3-4 inches on them, so a 12 incher is really 8 or 9...
Basement party for Friday and Saturday night - On-premise swingers basement parties at Destiny's Basement - Singles Night Friday Night & Pimp and Hooker Night, Saturday night, at Destiny's
May 19th & 20th
1028 Williamson Chapel Road, Maryville, Tenn., 37801
Come and enjoy two nights of meeting, greeting, and swinging (optional) at Destiny's basment, in Maryville. I'm having two nights for the curious and the expereinced to get out and mingle, in a private and discreet atmosphere.
I have several play rooms set-up for you to experience and watch others desires, fetishes, and fantasies come to life. I also have private play areas for those that don't care for being watched.
I have an hanging adult sex swing in one of the play areas, plus couches and sectionals that make out to beds, for more comfortable playing.
We have games we enjoy playing too, like Strip Bingo and Strip Poker, and you're not obligated to participate or do anything you don't wish to. You're here to enjoy, relax, make friends and have fun.
I have plenty of fingerfoods and set-ups for you, and the parties are BYOB, and we don't have a dress code...ever.
There is a door donation for the parties, just e-mail me or call and I can answer any questions or give directions, if you need them.
Take Care, Enjoy Life, and Play Safe. Your friend and hostess, Tammy
Single Males - Question - As aggravating as it sometimes is, we don't do the block single males option because one of the first swingers we ever had contact with was, and still is, a single guy. On another site we were on we blocked single guys and never heard from our friend, even though we sent him messages from time to time. We finally got an email at our regular mail telling us he couldn't respond to our messages because we had blocked not just the cold messages from unknown guys, but even replies to our own messages. So, if you ever decide to contact that single guy that catches your eye, make sure you unblock or you will never get a reply.
Swinger and/or Polyamorous FB Groups? - - This site has become really stagnant as of late, searches for what we are looking for are turning up mostly the same small handful of profiles which usually are
A. Somewhere we’ve been before and don’t want to go down that road for one reason or another
B. A profile we don’t find to be compatible with us for one reason or another
C. A profile we’ve reached out to and gotten no response, either they didn’t find us compatible or aren’t active enough on here to be checking their profile
D. Further away than we would like
So I was wondering, does anyone have a good Facebook secret group mainly in Utah that is for either swingers and/or polyamorous people? Feel free to message info if you’d rather not broadcast. Thanxx.
Small Towns - - The most Mormon swingers are in Utah? Who'd a thunk? I've heard there are more Mexican swingers in Mexico than anywhere else. And I was told by a friend in the KGB that the FBI has one of the highest rates of crossdressers of any spy agency (started with J. Edgar Hoover and well...). Oh and they said the NSA was all a bunch of ferret molesting hermaphrodites. I put in that last part because it's true and because the NSA is reading all this stuff (down in Draper at that big ass spy building) and touching themselves inappropriately while doing so. And they've prolly made copies of ALL of y'all's naughty pics and all the fat geeky computer nerds are jerkin' it to all of our swinger photos. Hey NSA dudes! Don't you wish you knew what a real vagina felt like?[em]Emo_67[/em]
Birds of a Feather - Finding couples that share similar interests - Speaking of the Bible belt and swingers... We are in NC (by choice not birth) We are not Baptists but we know a considerable amount of swingers who are very much Baptists but play on a regular basis.... The question has been asked at after party bull sessions about religion and swinging and on several other swinging sites.... The interesting thing is that most find no conflict in swinging and their religion. So if you're lookin for Baptists in the Bible belt... Come to NC where the Baptists rule, swingers' clubs abound and baptist's never recognize their fellow baptists in the ABC store or at the club socials...
Free will versus playing fair. - - Criusers......... This is exactly why we don't really like the group things. Nobody knows what the boundaries are or if there are boundaries. There are lots of different scenarios as far as groups go. Sometimes it's anything goes. Sometimes it's anything goes with some couples but not others. Sometimes there are couples there who are not even swingers, and in most cases, you have to figure that out yourself..... ( that happened at our last party and she was the hottest woman there.) I don't know how long you have been doing this, but the lifestyle is a trip, huh? Never imagined it would be this difficult. But it's still loads of fun, both socially and sexually.
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