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New Messenger Website for Swingers - By Swingular - Glad to see that we now have our own messenger site to chat on. However we'd like to know if there will be direct links to profiles and would also know when we will be able to upload our photos to our messenger profile.
Have you ever met anyone TRULY crazy in the lifestyle? - - OK so we're not overly qualified to answer, as we're quite new and haven't gotten to know anybody very well yet at all, but I do have some observations to add.
Are we all nuts? NO. some are, some aren't. Many "normal" folks may think we're abnormal, crazy even. I mean, we don't exactly run around telling everybody we like to see our spouses pleasured by others, that isn't a very "Christian" or "normal" thing in society's eyes. It doesn't make us crazy.
Adventurous? YES Thrillseekers? YES Different? YES Insane? NO
Case in point: It's my observation that most swingers ride motorcycles. That puts them definitely in the first 2 categories. There are a ton more Bikers that are completely Vanilla and totally sane, some may say "Different" because riding isn't everybody's thing. (We're scared to death of riding, and probably never will know the serenity and enjoyment it brings most.)
As far as meds go, remember this is the Zanax capitol of the world right here in the land of Zion. Not to mention the number of swinging active LDS members, other church-goers, retirees, well-paid professionals, business owners, and hard working blue collar folk. So the cross-section of society really is still there. Obviously by profiles you will find different strokes for different folks in the sexuality department, and on a Vanilla dating site, you get the same. We have members here who are octogenarians, and others who are barely old enough to get into clubs.
Crazies? sure you bet, there has to be. Just as with everything else, a certain percentage of any group will be a beer or two short of a sixer. I think that's why many here are hesitant, if not reluctant to entertain the thought of a hook-up with somebody they know from the web, but haven't met in real life. We definitely fall in that category ourselves. How many booty calls really get answered? Alot of times your mailbox gets stuffed with candor, friend request, and maybe a few cell #'s, but when the brass tacks fall, they end up lying there.
It's good to know that Evildoers hasn't ever feared for their lives, with their experiences over the years. The few couples we have met with one-on-one have seemed completely normal, honest, and respectful, regardless of whether or not they (or we) felt any attraction sexually. So I guess we're doing OK, and we're both excited to meet new people as often as we can.
That said, I'm going to take my meds and get some shut-eye ;)
NEW RIDING CLUB - LOOKING FOR MEMBERS - We are starting a new riding club in north west ohio to be know as SRC ( swingers riding club) . Any one in the area that would like to join please let us know if you are interested.
Been Druged? - Ever think you've been slipped something - With all these anecdotes I'm starting to wonder if drugging people is that ubiquitous. A number of years ago we went to Vegas and went out to celebrate a friend's birthday. We started the evening at a restaurant that had been converted, so to speak, into a meet and greet swing club that night. We were a little surprised at the number of cute young couples in attendance and later invited a number of them back to our friend's suite to party. Once we got back a few couples went into the bedroom and started playing. The people we invited stayed out in the common area and we asked them if they were new and unsure about playing. They responded that they were not swingers but went to many swing parties as they perceived swingers as being accepting of their club drug usage. They then proceeded to sit around the rest of the night doing and discussing different drugs and dosages. It was a little surreal. At one point I sat down and talked to them about drugs and swinging and crashing a swing party. They got a little confrontational and during the conversation mentioned that they could very easily slip something in my drink that would be entirely undetectable. At that point Ms. Evil and I basically just left. We decided after talking to these people to always watch our drinks very carefully any time we were in any sort of unfamiliar surroundings or situations.
Taking It Like A Champ - Best and worst ways to say "no thanks" - So I'm sure we've all been the recipients of a "Ya, we're just not interested" type of rejection after meeting a hot, fun couple that we thought we clicked with. No? Just us? Well then maybe you've handed a few of those out. So what ways have you successfully told a couple they're just not good enough, or how have you been nicely rejected in a way that didn't devastate you? We want to find a way to let a couple down that doesn't leave a them bawling their eyeballs out or pinning our picture to the wall and throwing darts at it. Especially if we like them...we just don't LIKE them. You know? Share your experiences, oh wise swingers!
Help let Dr. Phil and his audience know! - - Wow... that was interesting reading the posts there. The problem is not swinging, its not morality, its not even "right and wrong". The problem is with people forcing their opinion on everybody else. I have a tendency to agree with D of TR that society as a whole listens to the news or their bishop, whatever... then regurgitate that info with no validity at all. No body takes the time to do their own research to form their own opinion, Swingers included.
A letter to Single Men looking to meet a willing Single Woman - - [quote=STANSBURYCPL]OK single peoples I could use some advise. My ex and I divorced 3 months ago. We were active swingers and that did not have anything to do with the divorce. We are still best friends and hang out all the time just live separate places and are following our different paths in life which was one of the things that led us to our divorce. Now upon divorce we talked about our Swingular profile and swinging in general. We love it and want to continue to attend parties together and be each others "wingman" per say. I have clearly outlined this on our profile in our description. Now to where I need advise. Now as a single man I would like to also find a single lady to have some fun with as well. I messaged and emailed and well to say the least the majority think I'm lying and trying to cheat, or wont talk with me because I do not have a profile picture. I explain that I cant post a public picture as it could cost me my job if the wrong person were to see it, but I'm happy to email one if requested.
Now several months later I have not received one invite, one friend request, its radio silence. I would like to change this but I don't know how. Its led me to feelings of maybe I'm just not attractive enough sob story sob story bla no one wants to hear that crap, but I'm super frustrated.
Any advise would be welcome.
Thanks in advance.
This might sound simplistic, but I have been approached by government agents, school principals, Fortune 500 CEO's and CFO's that are unable to provide a face picture but will email one as you mentioned. Why can't you put your face picture in your private pictures. The only people that would see it is the ones you granted access to? I am given some reasons for this from them, but most stem because of government conspiracy theories. Hoping that is not you. If you can be fooled granting access you can also be fooled sending your picture by email. I don't want to give out my email to single men or newly single men with or with out a wing woman. Assuming you are verified and I haven't checked that, but this would also insure the person you are communicating with that the picture is indeed you.
Just a thought.
Is there room for the older guy? - Fit and fine BUT AGE? - I live in SLC but most of the swingers I know live in Idaho. I would be happy to hook you up with my friends in Idaho Falls if you email me. They are an active group and very open to new friends but do not belong to this site. So talk to me if you are interested in fun close to home.
Being single myself, I know and understand why it is hard to get with anyone. We all deal with rejection in our own ways. Remember that it may not be anything more than age or it may be that people are just cautious. Age is a big deal for a lot of people. It may not be logical to you or I but it is a fact. Personally I prefer older women. Although I have not met her, you would not think that blueyes would have a problem. I have met hellokity and she is a hot item. It is hard to imagine someone turning down or not being interested in playing with either of these women. But I have heard that same comments from other women that I know in the lifestyle.
If all you want is sex the box trick should help you. If you are looking for friends, I question if that is the way to go. The women I know prefer to flirt and sometimes play at a party because men are really unknown items and they do not want to get trapped.
In SLC, K&K hole regular M&G at a couple of clubs and post here. I have been to a couple or there
Psychology Research - I need help with a research project. - My husband and I have been Swingers for almost 8 years now. I am an undergraduate psychology student and am currently working on a research project. This research project is to compare the relationship styles of both swingers and non-swingers. I would like to have a large amount of swingers participate in this survey. Please message me privately on here if you have any questions about this survey. Thank you in advance to everyone who takes this survey.
What is your favorite kind of sex toys? - - We were wondering what everyone's toy of choice is. and also, if anyone has any suggestions on toys, you can pass them along to your fellow swingers. Also, a side topic that I would like to address is when you break up with someone, do you throw away toys you used with that partner?
And yet another side topic, we could talk about toy cleaning and care. Where to get the best deals, what websites or stores in your area do you use? some toys are way pricey, and some toys are dirt cheap.
this also includes bondage gear, special beds (iron beds with loops at strategic places for restraints and whatnot)
this should be a very fun topic!