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Respect...Needed? or just forgotten. - - The various points that have been made are well taken. We have been approached by people who are rude or crass. Typically it is a single male, often married pretending to be single or the de facto single male -- half of a vanilla couple pretending to be a swinging couple. I have several observations: This single male is far more likely to be a trial member. They have little or no real knowledge of swinging and it shows. They don\'t expect to be invited to join the couple or single female they approach. They simply find a cheap thrill in the crass sexaulity of the rude note they send. (I suspect they type them with one hand.) If given the oportunity (which their approach itself precludes) they would not play. Don\'t confuse them with the polite & respectful single males that are a part of swinging. We jokingly refer to them as hard-ons. They think because they once had a hard on -- they are qualified to swing. My FAVORITES are the ones that will \"let you watch\" or \"don\'t mind if you joins in\" as if somehow by their offer alone -- Belinda becomes theirs. You will see them at the clubs. Somehow they come up with the courage to go to a swingers club that allows single males. They are the males that hide in a corner too afraid to approach anyone or they are the males that come into the room with attitude written all over them -- as if saying \"I paid my fees -- who do I get to fuck\". If he is found out, the male half of the vanilla couple will stamp and stammer and claim that either he has his wife\'s permission or that she is cold and he is not getting any at home. Given their approach to sex. I have figured out, at least in part, why they are not getting any at home. I was raised by a very southern, very polite, Daughters of the Confederacy -- mother. Thus I had to endure the suffering born of numerous catillions or formal dances. Everyone knew everyone at the dances. Everyone knew that everyone was there to dance. But you went through the rituals of an introduction and small talk -- prior to dancing. While this analogy ignores the aspects of friendship that are a part of swinging. I have found that the manners I learned at my mothers knee have served me well in swinging. (Don\'t ya know that would shock the hell out of her!)

Small town fun - - Maybe throw a swingers party in the San Rafael swell. There are a lot of swingers that camp. Beer and bud are no strangers to the swell.

Hot wife play - all you new single men read this - Rather than just complaining we thought we offer a word about what many swinging couples might mean when they say yes to single men in their profile. This is mostly for all the new single guys, that really are single guys, that recently joined the site and the ones that have been here a while and still fail to prosper. "Hot Wife" is often used synonymous with the term Cuckold, but it is NOT how most swinger couples view “Hot Wife Play” so don't come off like the jerks in the porn you may be watching. Hot Wife Play for most of the swingers we know in Salt Lake is where the husband feels he has the hottest woman in the world, and wants to share her, and the wife enjoys all the erotic attention his devotion and fantasy creates for her. When in the mood, swinger couples are not looking for a sexual replacement for the husband, but rather a sex life enhancement adventure to share that includes a single man. The single man lucky enough to be a part of this sort of thing must be very respectful. The stuff of fantasy! Not all men measure up. Our wives don't want to be with physically or emotionally mediocre men. Husbands don't want to watch their wives with mediocre men. Cheaters, as in married men, playing without their wives should not prosper. Polite, respectful, attractive, intelligent and good humored single men can, and will do well in the swing community. We know some great guys. Maybe they should teach lessons. Single men need to take the emphasis off of "Hot Wife" as a singular fixation or lifestyle for couples that say “yes” to single men in their profile. Single men should consider it more of a fantasy and a pleasure for couples to make a reality, when that is what they desire, and they as single men can be part of that reality, if they are what the couple wants. Couples swing in other realms and often prefer couples hook ups most of the time. In other words, let's not consider it any more than what it is, a fantasy, and a possible reality that couples can use to hopefully enhance their relationship and single men can use to have sex with an incredibly passionate and orgasmic woman. Swinger couples, like us, sometimes wish to focus our attention on our hot wife's sexual fulfillment. She is so sexy that watching her in passion's full embrace, with another man can be extremely rewarding and erotic. As for me I watch until I can no longer wait to join in and ravish her. Sharing keeps a couple on their toes and their sex life exciting. Swinging couples usually try and stay sexy, attractive and interesting not just for any new lovers but for each other. The introduction of a sexy, new and different man in the equation is what ads all the spice in Hot Wife Play. Just because a guy is horny and he has a dick does not ad up to sexy or spice up the relationship. If a single guy wants to live the fantasy he needs to first become the fantasy. When a woman is just so sexually hot, that she is a gift to the world, and her passions and her orgasms cross over into the realm of the sacred, then encouraging the chosen, to join in such divine pussy worship is in reality a total fucking blast!! That is why we check yes to single men in our profiles and not because some guys have a dick and want to use it. Additional tips: Look good Smell good Have a sense of humor Be respectful Be patient Be honest Be healthy Be confident Be willing to host Good luck to all and have fun!

Virtual "Cheap Thrill Seekers" - - [quote=LILMISSRIDINGHOOD]What I think EVILDOERS is trying to say Islander2 is, there is no place to store such a list other than on your own computer or in one of them rolly things the dinosaurs used to keep track of their appointments, or to recall those snooty Triceratops who would just never show up. I can only assume that Swingular prefers users of the site to not punish other users for committing the crime of no show. But there is hope. They say if you contact enough people and make enough dinner appointments, you might get someone to appear in person. That's what I'm shooting for, at least. [/quote] OMG, you read my mind! Yes, sadly there are flakes in every walk of life and the fun part is trying to decide who is and isn't a flake. Unfortunately, once swinging went digital, the cost to play went WAY down. I'm not talking about the monthly fee you pay to Swingular. I'm talking about the ease with which someone can hide behind their 'puter and pretend to be something they are not. Back in the day (grab your Rolodexes kiddies), to meet other swingers you usually had to buy a swinger magazine with ads in it, rent a P.O. box, take some naughty Polaroids and send off a bunch of snail mail. It was WAY too much work for someone who just gets their jollies punking people. Sure there were still flakes, but the amount of effort people had to put in just to CONNECT with other couples made flakes far less ubiquitous. I mean for all you know now, the people who didn't show up for drinks at Applebees wasn't a hot, sexy couple but, in reality, a 600-pound transvestite defrocked pedophile priest with a ferret fetish. You probably totally dodged a bullet when he didn't have the guts to show up! [em]Emo_84[/em]

Married fellas with a hall pass - - If we know a couple, and they are both swingers, and they both have hall passes, then we feel comfortable playing with them together or alone. Honesty matters! Singles that really are single, sure why not. Married men or married women playing without their wife or their husband, without permission should not contact us. We are not judging them and yes we do not know the whole story but we are never-the-less very uncomfortable with any such arrangements and we will say no. Even if they claim that they have permission, we will say no to that too, unless maybe we meet their significant other, and even then probably no. If someone tells us they have permission, and their significant other knows about it, doesn't care, but doesn't want to know anything about it. Hell no. 99.999999999% of the time they are lying. It is not something we are interested in pursuing. Guys doing this, you should know, that more often then you might have imagined, the wife finds out about your profile.

Can someone enlighten me? - - I'm just curious... like I mentioned in another thread, now that my thong pic isn't our primary profile pic we're suddenly getting a LOT of blind friend requests (well, I assume they're blind because they didn't wanna be BFF's when it was MY ass they were lookin' at. [em]Emo_59[/em] But I digress. So am I the only one who kinda has a problem accepting a friendship request from people with absolutely no pictures whatsoever in their profiles, little or no info of any kind in the written portion that would lead me to believe we might have anything in common or give me any reason whatsoever to let them look at our private pics in all their glory? I think this would make a good poll. What do you think the number one reason someone would have no pics at all in their profile? 1) They're shy....no, I mean REALLY fucking shy! 2) They don't own a camera, a phone with a camera, know someone who owns a camera or have a pencil to at least draw a stick figure of themselves. 3) They're in the Federal Witness Protection Program. 4) They're internationally famous movie stars and charge for autographed photos. 5) They can't quite figure out all this computer/internet/Instagram shit. 6) They really don't give a fuck but would REALLY appreciate it if we'd open our pics because their fap folder is gettin' low. 7) They're ghosts/vampires/aliens who are physically unable to be photographed. 8) They're not really swingers. They work for the NSA (or the LDS church) 9) None of your damned business. Just open your fucking face pics to them!

Bad campers? - - [quote=HFUN]I the male half have had enough of this crap and i am starting a bill to have drinking campgrounds and family camp grounds and to outlaw intox and noise after 11pm in family campgrounds . put the party's far away from the family's. And i want everyone to join in on this one and work as a team on a issue we as swingers can take part in and change and make it better for all of us . or is this to much to ask? [/quote] IF - and I repeat [b]IF[/b] you're able to get such a bill passed, one of the two campgrounds is going to be a bankrupt ghost town. Guess which one it's going to be?

Why would a single guy choose the lifestyle? - - Most of the quality single guys in the lifestyle probably do some vanilla dating too. We have known a few really nice single men, who have profiles, and play with swingers, that also date in the vanilla world, if vanilla means dating that sometimes includes sex. Guys that consider women at least their equal, that can comfortably, politely, an intelligently talk with women in the vanilla world are the same sorts of guys that do well with swingers. If a guy can't get a date in the vanilla world, he probably won't do well with an intelligent, beautiful, sexually liberated, self aware, self actualizing, powerful and non monogamous woman who swings.

Something to consider - No means no online too. - [quote=DELICIOUSLYWET][quote=11MIKE]Thank god for the block button is all I have to say[/quote] Yes but we believe that perhaps some swingers learned nothing by being blocked. They will just keep on keeping on until everybody blocks them and think it was all so unfair. We are thinking maybe some swingers need a wake up call. [/quote] Learn nothing? This isn't school, I don't think you can teach them anything.

What does Bi comfy mean for a guy? - I wish Swingular had some definitions? - I have listed myself as straight because I am heterosexual. I kind of assumed that bi-curious means you are thinking about trying bisexuality for yourself but have not yet done so and that is not me. I kind of assumed that bi-comfortable means you are comfortable with some bisexual interaction that involves you personally being sexual, to some degree, with another man and I really am not. I am not homophobic or bi-phobic. If bi-comfortable means I have no problem with bi-sexuality or bi-sexual people then I am bi-comfortable. I would also be heterosexual comfortable, homosexual comfortable and transgender comfortable. We really do not have a problem with the male or the female half of a lifestyle couple being bi-sexual. My wife being bi-sexual, if she is attracted to both halves of just such a couple could enjoy having sex with both halves of the couple. We have been there and done that. I would only want to have sex with the women in the room but if the other man is bi-sexual and understands I will not be having sex with him then it is just the same as if he were heterosexual. No means no and yes means yes and in a room full of swingers it would seem the bi-sexual people have a better chance of getting a yes. If you focus on the pleasure you will not be having when there is no you cannot fully enjoy the pleasure you will and are having when you get a yes.

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