Vetting Potential Bulls

Profile Review

Start with their Swingular profile:

Is their profile complete and thoughtfully written?
Do they have REAL or VIP verification?
Are there reviews or certifications from other couples?
Do they mention experience with bull dynamics?
Are their photos clear and recent?

The Conversation Phase

Good vetting happens through conversation:

Both Partners Involved

Both of you should be part of the conversation, even if one does most of the chatting. A bull who only wants to talk to the wife is a red flag.

Ask About Experience

What experience does he have with couples? What dynamics has he been part of? How did those experiences go? Experienced bulls should have stories and lessons learned.

Discuss Your Dynamic

Explain exactly what you're looking for. See how he responds. Does he ask clarifying questions? Does he seem comfortable with your specific arrangement?

Video Chat First

Always video chat before meeting in person. This confirms he matches his photos, lets you assess his personality, and ensures he's who he claims to be. Use Swingular's video call feature to stay on-platform. The call should include both partners—this is a three-way interaction.

The First Meeting

Meet in public first—dinner or drinks
Both partners should be present
Observe how he interacts with both of you
No pressure to proceed to play the first time
Discuss boundaries and expectations in person

Trust Your Instincts

If something feels off at any stage—the conversation, the video call, the in-person meet—trust that feeling. You're under no obligation to proceed. A good bull will understand and respect that.

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