When & How to Share Personal Information
Guidelines for if and when you decide to share personal contact information with someone.
Key takeaways
- •There's no obligation to ever share personal info
- •If you do share, do it gradually and intentionally
- •Consider using secondary contact methods first
- •Always meet in public first before sharing more
You Don't Have To Share
First, let's be clear: you are never obligated to share personal contact information with anyone. Many successful lifestyle connections stay on-platform for extended periods or even entirely. This is perfectly normal and acceptable.
If You Choose to Share
If you do decide to share personal information, here are some guidelines to do it more safely:
1. Meet in Person First
Consider meeting in a public place before sharing phone numbers or other contact info. This confirms they are who they say they are and gives you a sense of chemistry and comfort.
2. Use Secondary Channels First
Consider using a Google Voice number, a secondary email, or a messaging app that doesn't require your real phone number before sharing your primary contact information.
3. Share Gradually
You don't have to give everything at once. Maybe start with a messaging app, then after more trust is built, share a phone number. There's no rush.
4. Maintain Boundaries
Even after sharing contact info, you're still allowed to set boundaries. If communication becomes uncomfortable, you can still choose to step back or block.
What to Protect Most
Some information is more sensitive than others. Be especially careful with:
- • Your home address
- • Your workplace or employer name
- • Social media connected to your "vanilla" life
- • Full legal name
- • Information about children or family
"Real connections understand patience. Anyone worth your time will respect your need for privacy."
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