Common Mistakes Bulls Make

Mistake #1: Ego Over Connection

Some men approach the bull role as an ego boost—"I get to sleep with someone's wife." This attitude shows through and turns couples off. The best bulls are confident but not arrogant, and genuinely focused on the couple's experience rather than their own validation.

Mistake #2: Ignoring the Husband

Whether you're playing in front of him or he's getting updates afterward, the husband is part of this. Bulls who treat him as irrelevant—or worse, as competition to beat—quickly find themselves without repeat invitations.

Mistake #3: Being Unreliable

Couples put significant emotional and logistical effort into arranging encounters. Flaking, being late, or not following through destroys trust immediately. If you commit, show up. If you can't, communicate early.

Mistake #4: Overstepping Boundaries

Pushing for things that weren't agreed upon—whether that's specific acts, no protection, or meeting the wife alone when that wasn't the arrangement—is the fastest way to get blocked and blacklisted.

Mistake #5: Catching Feelings

Developing romantic feelings for the wife and acting on them creates drama and often ends the arrangement badly. If you find yourself getting attached, communicate honestly and consider stepping back.

The Winning Formula

Be reliable, respectful, and genuinely focused on their experience. Follow through on what you say. Communicate clearly. Handle rejection gracefully. This is how you build a positive reputation and ongoing connections.

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