Boundary Checklist
A comprehensive checklist to discuss and document your boundaries as a couple.
Key takeaways
- •Clear boundaries create safety
- •Discuss each item before any experience
- •Write them down for reference
- •Review and update regularly
Why a Boundary Checklist Matters
Assumptions are dangerous in the lifestyle. This checklist ensures you and your partner are explicitly aligned on expectations. Go through each item and discuss where you both stand.
Physical Boundaries
Same room only vs. separate rooms
Do you always need to be in the same space?
Soft swap vs. full swap
What level of physical intimacy are you comfortable with?
Kissing with others - yes or no
Specific activities that are off-limits
Safety Boundaries
Protection requirements (always, sometimes, negotiable)
STI testing expectations
Safe word/signal for events
Alcohol/substance limits at events
Communication Boundaries
Exchanging contact information with others
Texting/messaging others outside of play
Emotional Boundaries
Meeting the same people multiple times
Developing friendships vs. keeping it casual
People we know (friends, coworkers) - off limits?
Ex-partners - off limits?
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