Just notice that there is a new status...what the heck is bi-comfortable? I understand bi-curious and bi sexual but don't get bi-comfortable.
Happy to receive not so happy to give?
My understanding of it is your are beyond curious but you are not fully bi. Meaning if you are a girl you will do girl-girl while playing but you don't seek out pure girl-girl only experiances.
Mr. C
Mr. C
http://www.biresource.net/whatisbisexuality.shtml
this has a pretty comprehensive description of each level of sexuality from gay to asexual.
to me bi comfortable is someone who doesnt freak out from bisexual behavior but doesnt seek it out.
my friend melissa for example. she has gotten down with girls before, but prefers men...but is not apposed to girl on girl. its a sort of middle ground. bi curious to me is someone who would like to experiment with the same sex, to test the waters and see how it goes, but might change their mind. i am on the side of, ill be with a man or woman. i prefer women but im down for sucking cock or giving or taking it in the ass.
there are so many different shades of gray in there too..so if you hang out with a couple who is any kind of bi, best thing to do is ask what they are down with, what the boundries are and let them know what your place is in that area...communication is key. you dont want surprises when it comes to this, cuz some people are just plain not down for same sex play. and it will ruin the mood for sure, and ive heard of cases where it ends in violence. lol...
brandon
this has a pretty comprehensive description of each level of sexuality from gay to asexual.
to me bi comfortable is someone who doesnt freak out from bisexual behavior but doesnt seek it out.
my friend melissa for example. she has gotten down with girls before, but prefers men...but is not apposed to girl on girl. its a sort of middle ground. bi curious to me is someone who would like to experiment with the same sex, to test the waters and see how it goes, but might change their mind. i am on the side of, ill be with a man or woman. i prefer women but im down for sucking cock or giving or taking it in the ass.
there are so many different shades of gray in there too..so if you hang out with a couple who is any kind of bi, best thing to do is ask what they are down with, what the boundries are and let them know what your place is in that area...communication is key. you dont want surprises when it comes to this, cuz some people are just plain not down for same sex play. and it will ruin the mood for sure, and ive heard of cases where it ends in violence. lol...
brandon
We can't speak for others. However, our definition of bi-comfortable is: She will play from the waist up and the other lady is free to do whatever she likes. Mrs Daisy recognizes beauty in other women. She likes to touch and kiss but, she doesn't see herself going down on a girl. Who knows if she will go further down the road. That is something she will need to decide. For now, just bi-friendly. So, any couples or sexy ladies that come to play, you know her boundries.
I figure bi-comfortable is being okay with the other girl being bi as well as being okay with waist-up or doing girl-girl for the sake of a show because it turns someone on. But prefers men and doesn't seek bi-girls for girl/girl sex.
I agree with you as well MYSTEREDAS1. I love to play with attractive woman but I want the dick in the end. 
I guess the key is to simply ask people regardless of what they're listed as on their profile eh? lol.
Mr. Chastisty say he is bi-comfortable because he is most comfortable around bisexual women. lol.
We have also always felt it to mean that the person enjoys bisexual activity, however would never consider a relationship with someone of the same sex, just enjoys the sexual aspects.
RANDMR.. You two are so sexy. Mrs Daisy enjoyed kissing the Mrs. If she was going to be bi-sexual, it would be with you. lol
We had a girl that described herself as Bi-furious. She was the opposite of bi-comfortable.. lol
we see bi-comfortable 2 ways.
1. being you are comfortable around and watching bi sex.
2. being comfortable enough to participate in bi sex as the receiver/giver not including cunninglingus for females and anal for men(kinda like soft and full swap).
We prefer bi-friendly to number 2.
As someone said there are many gray areas and labels. Best thing to do is talk over the boundaries.
1. being you are comfortable around and watching bi sex.
2. being comfortable enough to participate in bi sex as the receiver/giver not including cunninglingus for females and anal for men(kinda like soft and full swap).
We prefer bi-friendly to number 2.
As someone said there are many gray areas and labels. Best thing to do is talk over the boundaries.
Sounds like different people have different definitions for Bi-Comfortable. Sounds like they don't consider themselves Bi-Sexual, and sounds like they have had some experince, so Bi-Curious may not be the right description.
Sounds like Bi-Curious is a great conversation starter.
Just ask.
CB & KB
Sounds like Bi-Curious is a great conversation starter.
Just ask.
CB & KB
bi-ambivalent
bi-neutral
bi-nervous
bi-maybe
bi-not
bi-occasional
bi-selective
semi-bi
bi-bi-request
Bi the way, "just ask" sounds like a good idea!
(the devil's in the details)
bi-neutral
bi-nervous
bi-maybe
bi-not
bi-occasional
bi-selective
semi-bi
bi-bi-request
Bi the way, "just ask" sounds like a good idea!
(the devil's in the details)
I think that it means she will get it, but not give it.
Personally I'm straight but virtually all of the responses refer to women. I know that there are men who are bi and would like to see what it means to them. Is it something like not homophobic? I hate it when people in the lifestyle waffle about bi men... We've belonged to quite a number of clubs and if a man were openly bi he might as well commit heiri kerri (sp)
Example: One night in a room at a hotel party there were 2 couples on one of the beds; a couple on a sofa and another couple on the other bed. One of the guys on the bed says;"this kind of reminds me of the time I was doing this woman and she had asked me to cum on her chest... When the time came I pulled out and and came on her husband who had slipped over and was sucking her tits... " From the sofa came the reply... "That would have done me in..right there" I put my head up and asked why that would do you in....and no reply came. I then asked have they ever been in close proximity with another couple and the guys somehow touched? The answer was that that's different... I then asked what if you are in a pile and all of the sudden someone is going down on you and it feels fabulous. You look down and it's a man...What do you do at that point.... It feels good .....do you punch him out? ...push him off?.... Ask him to stop?.... Get up get dressed and leave.... or continue whatever it was that you were doing with the lady. Does this make you gay or something?????
I guess what I'm saying is that the longer we are in this the less we find that is out of the ordinary. The less we are homophobic..... Does this make one bi comfortable or bi curious or bi anything.... Does anyone have any insite .....
R
Example: One night in a room at a hotel party there were 2 couples on one of the beds; a couple on a sofa and another couple on the other bed. One of the guys on the bed says;"this kind of reminds me of the time I was doing this woman and she had asked me to cum on her chest... When the time came I pulled out and and came on her husband who had slipped over and was sucking her tits... " From the sofa came the reply... "That would have done me in..right there" I put my head up and asked why that would do you in....and no reply came. I then asked have they ever been in close proximity with another couple and the guys somehow touched? The answer was that that's different... I then asked what if you are in a pile and all of the sudden someone is going down on you and it feels fabulous. You look down and it's a man...What do you do at that point.... It feels good .....do you punch him out? ...push him off?.... Ask him to stop?.... Get up get dressed and leave.... or continue whatever it was that you were doing with the lady. Does this make you gay or something?????
I guess what I'm saying is that the longer we are in this the less we find that is out of the ordinary. The less we are homophobic..... Does this make one bi comfortable or bi curious or bi anything.... Does anyone have any insite .....
R
we think, you dont looking 4 but if happend its ok.
We tend to believe that Bi -comfortable means yes Bi-sexual play is ok but not expected My wife is bi but sometimes she dosen't feel like the whole girl on girl thing...But if your profile says Bi- sexual then it seems to be expected so they added bi comfortable to say ya its ok but not necessarily all the time.
Just what we think no fact behind these ramblings..
Kisses Naugh-Ty and Lucky
Just what we think no fact behind these ramblings..
Kisses Naugh-Ty and Lucky
Our interpretation of "bi-comfortable" is kind of based on our experience with a fmf threesome we had with a single woman who has always identified as heterosexual and although has experimented, largely prefers men[i]over women.
Even though this woman has had a few sexperiences with other women, she always identifies on profiles(such as Myspace)as "straight". She does however, not mind being with couples as long as there is a male involved(so a f/f couple would be out of the question). Whatever the equation, she highly prefers that a male be involved. Being with only women or a woman in any given sexual situation really does nothing for her either way, but she is not "grossed out" by the idea of girl-girl action, it doesnt exactly get her motor running(she has had one "1on1" experience with a best friend but did not initiate it). The woman in question likes playing with [i]us for the sole purpose of being with my boyfriend. She knows im bi and is obviously not homophobic about it, but she is way more interested in sexual contact with my boyfriend than with me. If iinitiate contact with her, she participates and is comfortable but seems a little nervous, yet she's totally comfortable going down on me as well as my boyfriend(so that throws out the "above the waist" theory), but just because someone is comfortable or experimenting doesnt mean that is their preference or that it particularly turns them on. She doesnt seek out women but spends countless hours on the internet in search of male hook ups. When women contact her she has a "take it or leave it" attitude, but most of the time doesnt bother pursuing anything with them. Still, she's "comfortable" being in the same room with a bi or gay woman, and comfortable occasionally having sex with a woman if its in the form of a threesome and the other woman initiates things...but sex with a man interests her by far more. So i would consider our friend either "bi-comfortable" or "straight but experimenting". To me, comfortable doesn't necessarily mean there will be any same sex relations going on, it simply means if im in a threesome situation and im giving my man a blowjob along with another woman and our lips touch, or any other part of our anatomy, she's not going to freak out and say "omg! girl cooties!" or anything similar. That doesnt mean that she's sexually turned on by me. To me, thats Comfortable. I consider myself, if i must label, as bisexual..although sometimes i feel limited by that term as well. I have had relationships with women, some of them long term, but not all bisexual women do...thats just me. Sexuality and sexual orientation doesnt necessarily define if you choose to have relationships or not, it simply means who you are sexually attracted to.
Even though this woman has had a few sexperiences with other women, she always identifies on profiles(such as Myspace)as "straight". She does however, not mind being with couples as long as there is a male involved(so a f/f couple would be out of the question). Whatever the equation, she highly prefers that a male be involved. Being with only women or a woman in any given sexual situation really does nothing for her either way, but she is not "grossed out" by the idea of girl-girl action, it doesnt exactly get her motor running(she has had one "1on1" experience with a best friend but did not initiate it). The woman in question likes playing with [i]us for the sole purpose of being with my boyfriend. She knows im bi and is obviously not homophobic about it, but she is way more interested in sexual contact with my boyfriend than with me. If iinitiate contact with her, she participates and is comfortable but seems a little nervous, yet she's totally comfortable going down on me as well as my boyfriend(so that throws out the "above the waist" theory), but just because someone is comfortable or experimenting doesnt mean that is their preference or that it particularly turns them on. She doesnt seek out women but spends countless hours on the internet in search of male hook ups. When women contact her she has a "take it or leave it" attitude, but most of the time doesnt bother pursuing anything with them. Still, she's "comfortable" being in the same room with a bi or gay woman, and comfortable occasionally having sex with a woman if its in the form of a threesome and the other woman initiates things...but sex with a man interests her by far more. So i would consider our friend either "bi-comfortable" or "straight but experimenting". To me, comfortable doesn't necessarily mean there will be any same sex relations going on, it simply means if im in a threesome situation and im giving my man a blowjob along with another woman and our lips touch, or any other part of our anatomy, she's not going to freak out and say "omg! girl cooties!" or anything similar. That doesnt mean that she's sexually turned on by me. To me, thats Comfortable. I consider myself, if i must label, as bisexual..although sometimes i feel limited by that term as well. I have had relationships with women, some of them long term, but not all bisexual women do...thats just me. Sexuality and sexual orientation doesnt necessarily define if you choose to have relationships or not, it simply means who you are sexually attracted to.
Maybe I am the only one with BAD experiences with bi-comfortable and bi-courious women. I have found that you get the cold shoulder because the male wants more opportunities with women and when it comes right down to it they are just there for the cock. I am not saying they all are like that. I would like friends to hang out with without the sexual tension sometimes. I perfer to be with bi-sexual girls in a couple because there is no guessing to what she might comfortable with The others you just never know and I don't have time or the patients to play the game to find out.... life is too short and tons of fun to be had!!!
It's like "bar-sexual". They're only bi when they're drunk. haha Girls/guys will do it for their significant other but they don't like it. Ooooorrr, the person will be happy to take just won't give back. :-(
how about orally bi?
Looks like all have a different def. To us it is a man who will play in a foursome usually for my entertainment but would never seek or meet an man one on one.
Ralph and Fae
Ralph and Fae
sorry meant threesome or fousome
I've noticed that, especially in Utah, there is way too much emphasis on women being with women. Most of the time it's just an act. Kind of a turn off actually. What ever happened to taking care of the men? Cock is wonderful! Just sayin'.
The Mrs.
The Mrs.
kind of wish the site Admin would chime in and let us know what it means in terms of the website, to us it was one step more than "bi-curious" but after reading what everyone thinks it means the Mrs. changed herself to "bi-sexual" just so there wouldn't be any confusion. Oh and Mr Daisy, i have some pics of our Mrs making out, you should send me your #, you would enjoy them! and BTW, its wayyyy past April!
To use bi-comfortable means that we will not freak out if the male or female of the other couple is bi. Does not mean that we are or are not bi-sexual or even bi-curious. Just a way of letting people that look at our profile know that if they are bi-sexual or bi-curious that it is ok with us. At least that is how we interpret "bi-comfortable".
A&D
A&D