In profile after profile, I read DDD free. So many of us profess to be Drama free but what is drama and how do you avoid it?
I know the big ones... fighting, not having your rules squared away and making others uncomfortable with the stuff happening in your own relationship.
What about asking questions? Being a Noob? Trying to figure out what your rules are? Where does one go when you want to reach out to LS members to see if they've encountered something and how they resolved or addressed it? Is that Drama and should it be avoided? Is there a safe place for those new/old to ask questions and benefit from experienced LS's??
I know the big ones... fighting, not having your rules squared away and making others uncomfortable with the stuff happening in your own relationship.
What about asking questions? Being a Noob? Trying to figure out what your rules are? Where does one go when you want to reach out to LS members to see if they've encountered something and how they resolved or addressed it? Is that Drama and should it be avoided? Is there a safe place for those new/old to ask questions and benefit from experienced LS's??
MANDIEQT wrote:
In profile after profile, I read DD free. So many of us profess to be Drama free but what is drama and how do you avoid it?
I know the big ones... fighting, not having your rules squared away and making others uncomfortable with the stuff happening in your own relationship.
What about asking questions? Being a Noob? Trying to figure out what your rules are? Where does one go when you want to reach out to LS members to see if they've encountered something and how they resolved or addressed it? Is that Drama and should it be avoided? Is there a safe place for those new/old to ask questions and benefit from experienced LS's??
There is no safe place, Evildoers can find you anywhere......
STOPHER29 wrote:MANDIEQT wrote:
In profile after profile, I read DD free. So many of us profess to be Drama free but what is drama and how do you avoid it?
I know the big ones... fighting, not having your rules squared away and making others uncomfortable with the stuff happening in your own relationship.
What about asking questions? Being a Noob? Trying to figure out what your rules are? Where does one go when you want to reach out to LS members to see if they've encountered something and how they resolved or addressed it? Is that Drama and should it be avoided? Is there a safe place for those new/old to ask questions and benefit from experienced LS's??
There is no safe place, Evildoers can find you anywhere......
What can I say, I have a good brain...the best brain, the world's best memory. And I'm humble but fortunately never wrong so I never have to apologize for being wrong or ask for forgiveness or for being abrasive because that's what we Americans LOVE (apparently). Screw PC! We like to WIN! We're gonna be SICK of winning! Now whaddaya wanna know about swinging? Here's a diagram.
I agree with illustrator. All of it is opinions. We've been swinging for 18 years, so we have pretty much done it all. Made the mistakes and pissed off people I am sure. It's a learning process that involves you trying and fucking things up, kind of like puberty. 
I believe that the easiest way to avoid drama is to be consistent at communicating both needs and limits. Some are too shy about expressing personal tastes and may actually withdraw from the conversation in a show of resentment when they aren't feeling attended to. Conversely, others get feelings hurt because they don't allow enough communication to level the playing field. After 20 years in the lifestyle, I find myself drawn more and more to stable relation-shipped people who know each other enough to assist me in interpreting various cues and miscues. Not all younger couples are secure enough in their relationship to work as a team for mutual enjoyment and I can start to feel more like I'm running interference rather than participating in a group event.
On the home page, left hand side there are "click-on's" for: Tips, Etiquette and Questions ... although I can't get the questions click to load ~
What we've found is a lot of people have drama in their daily lives which tends to spill over into lifestyle dealings. Sometimes you can spot it right away, other times it can take a little while to see it.
WOWMAMA69 wrote:
What we've found is a lot of people have drama in their daily lives which tends to spill over into lifestyle dealings. Sometimes you can spot it right away, other times it can take a little while to see it.
This X1000 w/ singles as well. Swinging isn't a solution but many will try to make it one.