We were recently on vacation and on the look out for someone else to "Play" with. We quickly realized that it's very hard to tell who MIGHT be in the lifestyle. So aside from wearing a sign that says "Hello, I'm a Swinger", how do we find each other in normal vanilla situations? We would never want to assume and offend anyone by guessing wrong. What is our SWINGER SIGNAL?? A hand shake, a wink, a secret code? LOL help us!!
GOODTIMES3334 wrote:
We were recently on vacation and on the look out for someone else to "Play" with. We quickly realized that it's very hard to tell who MIGHT be in the lifestyle. So aside from wearing a sign that says "Hello, I'm a Swinger", how do we find each other in normal vanilla situations? We would never want to assume and offend anyone by guessing wrong. What is our SWINGER SIGNAL?? A hand shake, a wink, a secret code? LOL help us!!
Well if the other couples wife comes over and starts sucking on one of your husbands fingers while the husband tries to swab your tonsils with his tongue ... that's a sign.
But seriously? I don't think there is one. I have a little ankle bracelet that I wear on the right ankle sometimes but I don't think that means a lot to most couples. Well, except that mine has 3 charms hanging off it, 1 female charm and 2 male charms! I suppose that'd be a hint if you were looking close enough!
I think the "sharing is caring" written on anything is how I would tell. I'm getting some of those tshirts.... Plus vanilla couples think your just generous...which kinda you are hahaha. I have seen keychains/ tattoos/ stuff like that with a female sumol and two male symbols, or a male an two female. Ect
Ps we have this issue ALL of the time when you see a freaking hot couple and your hoping they flash their "open for business" sign haha
Ps we have this issue ALL of the time when you see a freaking hot couple and your hoping they flash their "open for business" sign haha
MINDYANDIAN wrote:
I think the "sharing is caring" written on anything is how I would tell. I'm getting some of those tshirts.... Plus vanilla couples think your just generous...which kinda you are hahaha. I have seen keychains/ tattoos/ stuff like that with a female sumol and two male symbols, or a male an two female. Ect Ps we have this issue ALL of the time when you see a freaking hot couple and your hoping they flash their "open for business" sign haha
Totally!
tatoos? piercings, something that makes you think, ouch! that hurts.. that person must be a freak
Hmmm...maybe I need to get an "All my swinging ain't done in trees" shirt available for sale....LOL
MINDYANDIAN wrote:
I think the "sharing is caring" written on anything is how I would tell. I'm getting some of those tshirts.... Plus vanilla couples think your just generous...which kinda you are hahaha. I have seen keychains/ tattoos/ stuff like that with a female sumol and two male symbols, or a male an two female. Ect
Ps we have this issue ALL of the time when you see a freaking hot couple and your hoping they flash their "open for business" sign haha
is the quote "sharing is caring" a lifestyle quote or is this just something that you are suggesting? if it is a lifestyle thing, it seems like there needs to be more of a push to get it out there. if its a suggestion, its a great one and again needs a strong push!!
With my ex, we 'recruited' a lot of people into the lifestyle.
We simply flirted and saw where it went.
If they're in the lifestyle, they'll know what is happening, if they're not but open, they'll figure it out pretty quickly, if they're not and not open to it, flirting with a couple isn't a good thing, they'll walk away.
Locally, there's a nudist resort, not all nudists are swingers and not all swingers are nudists, so to find out, simply talk, drop a hint, etc. that's all we did.
We simply flirted and saw where it went.
If they're in the lifestyle, they'll know what is happening, if they're not but open, they'll figure it out pretty quickly, if they're not and not open to it, flirting with a couple isn't a good thing, they'll walk away.
Locally, there's a nudist resort, not all nudists are swingers and not all swingers are nudists, so to find out, simply talk, drop a hint, etc. that's all we did.
I always tell people I like girl juice and sausage for breakfast...
real swingers know what I mean
real swingers know what I mean
I think the subtle things mentioned would be your only clues. But when we rely on the subtle, we're always taking a big chance. Which is kind of fun too, but could be disastrous.
You didn't ask this; I'm only throwing it in for conversation: Even though we like this lifestyle, we're not really so outgoing in that way. I know it's kind of weird, but it's just our comfort zone. We'd never think of displaying something that advertised it, even to people in the know. We're just kind of a weird combination of conservative and debauched at the same time.
I was shocked last Halloween to be walking around a place called Thanksgiving Point (an amusement attraction that had rides and Halloween-themed games and stuff) to see a young couple pushing their toddler twins around, and the Mom was wearing a shirt with MILF blazed across her breasts. So tacky.
You didn't ask this; I'm only throwing it in for conversation: Even though we like this lifestyle, we're not really so outgoing in that way. I know it's kind of weird, but it's just our comfort zone. We'd never think of displaying something that advertised it, even to people in the know. We're just kind of a weird combination of conservative and debauched at the same time.
I was shocked last Halloween to be walking around a place called Thanksgiving Point (an amusement attraction that had rides and Halloween-themed games and stuff) to see a young couple pushing their toddler twins around, and the Mom was wearing a shirt with MILF blazed across her breasts. So tacky.
Well how about LAGNAF or as it should be written L.A.G.N.A.F. on whatever. I'm guessing that most of you probably don't even know what that means. Vanilla people will be completely clueless.
Just for the record LAGNAF means:
L = Lets
A = All
G = Get
N = Naked
A = And
F = FUCK!!!
So how does THAT work for ya?
Oh! And buy the way, yes, I do have a shirt with that written on it...LOL. I'll make sure I wear it the next time we are in Utah or Fla.
Just for the record LAGNAF means:
L = Lets
A = All
G = Get
N = Naked
A = And
F = FUCK!!!
So how does THAT work for ya?
Oh! And buy the way, yes, I do have a shirt with that written on it...LOL. I'll make sure I wear it the next time we are in Utah or Fla.
Well, Florida just happens to be open - come on down!!!!
ORALLYBI4CPL wrote:
I always tell people I like girl juice and sausage for breakfast...
real swingers know what I mean
Or do you like "girl juice" on your "sausage?"
Hey fun4 so i guess i could tell if you came over and sucked on my finger or something else
Just ask them if they are "vanilla" or casually mention that someone is "vanilla" if they are a swinger they will know exactly what you are talking about. if they are not they wont and you can play it off somehow. This works good without awkwardly bringing up the dreaded "swinger". Which is offensive to many.
Thats a great idea I will have to start throwing vanilla out there more
GOODTIMES3334 wrote:
Hey fun4 so i guess i could tell if you came over and sucked on my finger or something else
Well YEAH, I hope you could tell then ... kinda like that Dorito's commercial during the Superbowl?
they come in different colors (which mean different things) and are only $5....
Alot of couples in Northern Utah have them so look for them!!!
Alot of couples in Northern Utah have them so look for them!!!
This is the place to get them.... they are swingers too!!!
www.7946437.com
Just in case you didn't know it the 7946437 is actually the word swinger on your cell phone keys...
www.7946437.com
Just in case you didn't know it the 7946437 is actually the word swinger on your cell phone keys...
MR_TRIXIEE wrote:
they come in different colors (which mean different things) and are only $5.... Alot of couples in Northern Utah have them so look for them!!!
And I/we were ready to order.
On several occassions.
Too bad we couldn't get our phone calls returned.
what colors do you want and I will be glad to send them to you... you can pay with paypal if you like... or go thru the website and they will process your order as well...
MR_TRIXIEE wrote:
what colors do you want and I will be glad to send them to you... you can pay with paypal if you like... or go thru the website and they will process your order as well...
Actually, after the frustration of not getting my calls returned, I gave up and ended up buying wrist bands in the same colors I wanted off eBay.
Granted, they don't have the number on them, butt they seem to work just fine.
Thanks for offering to help.
As T4REAL69 has already said, this is an old topic that's been hashed and rehashed here on the Forums more times than any of us can count.
And I always answer the question the same way.
How can you tell if someone is a Swinger?
"If you look over in the other bed, and see a man fucking your wife, while you're fucking his, there's a pretty good chance they're Swingers."
And I always answer the question the same way.
How can you tell if someone is a Swinger?
"If you look over in the other bed, and see a man fucking your wife, while you're fucking his, there's a pretty good chance they're Swingers."
LOL, Who the heck came up with those color schemes?? I just went and looked at those wristbands and the color schemes. I'd be a red, that's cool. My husband'd be a PINK? REALLY? Oh yeah, right, like I'll buy him one-a those -- how long do ya think it'll take before he gnaws it off like a rabid dog??
Oh, and I just noticed purple is like soft swap or somethin? I've got gay friends. Purple is NO soft swap color! (remember some folks gettin' all hot and bothered over Barney the purple dino on that childrens show?)
Oh, and I just noticed purple is like soft swap or somethin? I've got gay friends. Purple is NO soft swap color! (remember some folks gettin' all hot and bothered over Barney the purple dino on that childrens show?)
Vanilla people (girls especially) pick it up VERY quickly every time they head to Habits. I've overheard more than one conversation at the gas station, grocery store, etc. about how they don't go there anymore cuz of it. :P You're scaring off the potential unicorns you silly beans. :P
FUN4MWF wrote:
LOL, Who the heck came up with those color schemes?? I just went and looked at those wristbands and the color schemes. I'd be a red, that's cool. My husband'd be a PINK? REALLY? Oh yeah, right, like I'll buy him one-a those -- how long do ya think it'll take before he gnaws it off like a rabid dog??
Oh, and I just noticed purple is like soft swap or somethin? I've got gay friends. Purple is NO soft swap color! (remember some folks gettin' all hot and bothered over Barney the purple dino on that childrens show?)
As well as the purple tellytubby with the triangle on his head that carried the red purse. Apparently Spongebob and Patrick along with Burt & Ernie are ALSO gay lovers. Go figure. hahaha.
I am a "raise the flag" (if you will!?) type of gal, meaning that I am not afraid to make mention what I believe in. I am tactful and sometimes a bit coy, but I am FAR from shy. I have a scroll type heart on my the inside of my right wrist and it has proven to be an excellent topic for me to springboard into my personl life if I feel the vibe is right. As for mics jewelery that may lead one to question just HOW hot I am in the sack...well that is below the belt and waiting to be discovered.
CARRIERMAN wrote:
...How can you tell if someone is a Swinger?
"If you look over in the other bed, and see a man fucking your wife, while you're fucking his, there's a pretty good chance they're Swingers."
Well, yeah, or your a vanilla straight guy that REALLY needs to cut back on the drinkin!
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
As well as the purple tellytubby with the triangle on his head that carried the red purse. Apparently Spongebob and Patrick along with Burt & Ernie are ALSO gay lovers. Go figure. hahaha.
OMG, did you just HAVE to go and bring back memories of TellyTubbies??
I abso-freakin-lutely hated them things -- nothing to do with their color, just their general hugely irritating nature. And one of my kids just loved to watch them. If I'd-a had a nuclear warhead and specific coordinates for where they filmed that show......BAAMMM.....3rd world war!
Ooops....I'm off topic again....sorry.....I tend to do that. It's Kitty's fault.
FYI, If you see a man and woman grab their crotch and spit, they are probably redneck swingers
[quote=SOUTHERNFUN]FYI, If you see a man and woman grab their crotch and spit, they are probably redneck swingers
[quote=FUN4MWF][quote=SOUTHERNFUN]FYI, If you see a man and woman grab their crotch and spit, they are probably redneck swingers
My wife has a tattoo on the back of her neck with male female signs but with 4 of them..lol that works..And if they dont know what it means well than they dont need to know
T4REAL69 wrote:TReal, you'd better quit that, RIGHT NOW! OR WHAT? Well, soon you'll find your self waking up in a hospital room, so weak you can't stand, so famished they're feeding you through a tube, and so drained the IV will be tied directly to the cold water faucet. But it's not even over then 'cause you're one of the few guys here that knows my real secrets
I have seen this discussed a number of times and from what I recall there isn't an offical universal sign in existance although I hope I can take FUN4MWF new profile pic as a sign she enjoys playing with balls as I want to be on her team....choose me, choose me...lol!
so of course I'll feel compelled to come make sure you further lose control of your faculties!Damn...off topic again! Ummm, so could one indicator be a married woman flirting with a gentleman other than her own husband in an open forum?
I gotta move this computer somewhere less convenient so I don't stop at it every 10 minutes when I SHOULD be walking right by!
We find that just using the term vanilla in conversation will generally let you know something.
MYKSBABY wrote:Wow, that is bold!! I LIKE her!! I've got jewelry but a TAT is a cut above that!
My wife has a tattoo on the back of her neck with male female signs but with 4 of them..lol that works..And if they dont know what it means well than they dont need to know
HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:
Democrats only think about doing it...but it never actually gets done.
Uh, do you remember Bill Clinton? He "got it done."
MAVENX wrote:HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:
Democrats only think about doing it...but it never actually gets done.
Uh, do you remember Bill Clinton? He "got it done."
Hi Mavenx! I never should-a thrown in the word Democrat...I knew I was going to start something inappropriate for this thread! I need to get a pic of myself spanking myself ... if I had such a thing I'd post it here right now! Here is what I should have said (hind sight is 20/20):
Ummmm.....so if they grab YOUR crotch and SWALLOW, are they a POLITICIAN?
There. That's better!FUN4MWF wrote:
Ummmm.....so if they grab YOUR crotch and SWALLOW, are they a POLITICIAN?
heheheheh, I'm good with the Democrat comment. Everyone knows Republicans don't get laid. HAHAHHA
Sure they do, just not by their own wives!
WHATSNOT2LUV wrote:i think we've gone full circle back to the new "politician" comment lol. Have to admit the perks of being a congressman are pretty damn nice these days... expense accounts for hookers, private jets, hot young secretaries, who could ask for more lol
Sure they do, just not by their own wives!
CARRIERMAN wrote:
As T4REAL69 has already said, this is an old topic that's been hashed and rehashed here on the Forums more times than any of us can count. And I always answer the question the same way. How can you tell if someone is a Swinger? "If you look over in the other bed, and see a man fucking your wife, while you're fucking his, there's a pretty good chance they're Swingers."
hahahahaha
BTW I thought sharing is caring was a swinger saying.... if not then I'm suggesting it and printing it on tshirts and vinyl this weekend for cars/whatever... let me know if you want any and I'll get with you on the prices...
MYKSBABY wrote:
My wife has a tattoo on the back of her neck with male female signs but with 4 of them..lol that works..And if they dont know what it means well than they dont need to know
Thats HOT.... I've seen it, but not on the back of a neck.... hard to cover....
MAVENX wrote:FUN4MWF wrote:
Ummmm.....so if they grab YOUR crotch and SWALLOW, are they a POLITICIAN?
heheheheh, I'm good with the Democrat comment. Everyone knows Republicans don't get laid. HAHAHHA
I'm an independent. Does that mean I go both ways?
Hmmm! every year around christmas I see those bell ringers everywhere (salvation Army) well on the pot and signs it says "sharing is caring" either its their trade mark or they have been taking donation for the life style all these years. Thank You!
@ kitty! yep yep! habits is the way to get broken in....Everyone is so friendly!
@ kitty! yep yep! habits is the way to get broken in....Everyone is so friendly!
Isn't a lot of the fun in finding who is and who isn't a part of the lifestyle and to what degree?? It's been my experience that pretty much every couple is in some manner or another either "open" or "active" to swing exploration in some fashion or another. The idea of declaring your sexual prowess openly to the public isn't asked or expected in any other regular social setting. Why should it be in this venue?? I say, get out, meet people and learn about people, don't just look at what color bracelet they have on and try to remember what color means what at each particular time of the day.
ASHEERKISS wrote:
Hmmm! every year around christmas I see those bell ringers everywhere (salvation Army) well on the pot and signs it says "sharing is caring" either its their trade mark or they have been taking donation for the life style all these years.
I googled sharing is caring and its on a ton of charities... BUT now that I have mentioned it on a HUGE swinger website,,,,, just saying
They're at Habits...
Out east we have a group that uses the phrase.. "do you know George?" I like the vanilla thought though.. Maybe we can start a singers code phrase like asking the other couple a question. Something like.. Do they sell vanilla drinks here? Or Do you know if they sell vanilla vodka here?? Just a thought...Or there is always the good old fasion.. "Hey would you guys be interested in fucking on our bed tonight? lol
We could tell you the secret signal... But then you'd have to 'do' us... wink
[quote=SOUTHERNFUN]FYI, If you see a man and woman grab their crotch and spit, they are probably redneck swingers
ASHEERKISS wrote:
Hmmm! every year around christmas I see those bell ringers everywhere (salvation Army) well on the pot and signs it says "sharing is caring" either its their trade mark or they have been taking donation for the life style all these years. Thank You!
@ kitty! yep yep! habits is the way to get broken in....Everyone is so friendly!
lulz. the girl at the maverick i go to on sundays always flirts with me and last weekend her friend was telling her to stay far far away from habits. i had to explain why couples were approaching them like that. it was hilarious.
ASHEERKISS wrote:
Hmmm! every year around christmas I see those bell ringers everywhere (salvation Army) well on the pot and signs it says "sharing is caring" either its their trade mark or they have been taking donation for the life style all these years. Thank You!
@ kitty! yep yep! habits is the way to get broken in....Everyone is so friendly!
lulz. the girl at the maverick i go to on sundays always flirts with me and last weekend her friend was telling her to stay far far away from habits. i had to explain why couples were approaching them like that. it was hilarious.
many years ago we there was a meet and greet at club manhatten where you wore a green button. i love the wrist band idea.
NEWFUNCOUPLEXXX wrote:
Hello kitty!! We are new lol!! so is habits just for swingers or mostly swingers?? The reason I ask Is some HUGE vanilla friends that I dont think even have sex invited us to go there few weeks ago!! I would flirt with you to if I was at maverick!!!
Its not exclusively swingers. A lot of swingular people simply like going there on a regular basis. *psst. its the maverick in lehi. i'll be by the redbulls* :P
Thanks for the info Mr_Trixiee, just ordered our bracelets today!
Same as Italian forplay... "Hey you wanta fuck".....