How to Approach People at Events

Start with Conversation

Lifestyle events are social first. Approach people the way you would at any party—with friendliness, not propositions:

"Is this your first time here?"
"Great party tonight, isn't it?"
"I love your outfit!"
"Have you been to any other events like this?"

Let conversations develop naturally. If there's chemistry, it will become apparent.

Reading the Room

Positive Signs

• Open body language, facing you
• Asking questions in return
• Physical proximity maintained
• Smiling, laughing, engaging
• Introducing you to their partner

Time to Move On

• Short answers, no follow-up
• Looking around, not at you
• Stepping away or closed posture
• Checking their phone repeatedly
• "We're just watching tonight"

Handling Rejection Gracefully

You will be declined—everyone is. How you handle it matters:

"No worries! It was nice chatting with you."
Smile, thank them for their time, and walk away
Don't ask why or try to change their mind
Don't take it personally—chemistry is subjective
Never badmouth someone who declined you

Remember

It's completely fine to attend an event and only socialize. There's no pressure to play. Many people go to events just to enjoy the environment and meet people, with no expectation of physical activity.