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Paper or Plastic? - - Republican swingers...go figure that one out, sort of like jumbo shrimp...
Single Males - - [quote=EVILDOERS]
...get a girl to join you....Not only do you now "bring more to the table", but you have the added credibility that if you can find and finesse a girl into joining you in this little adventure we call swinging (whether it be a girlfriend, a wife, a second cousin twice removed, or just a hot fwb) you might just not be a giant douchecopter.[/quote]
Ignoring the need to "finesse" someone and unhealthy gender stereotypes in general, this line of reasoning is a little troubling as it presumes that a male's company is inherently worth less. Or that an absence of semi-romantic relationships somehow speaks poorly of his character. I personally think approaching someone whom you aren't already fairly close with and soliciting to go to a swingers party is a bit out of line. Especially if her company is sought as an accessory to demonstrate to others that he is not, as you say, “a douchecopterâ€. Call me old-fashioned.
[quote=EVILDOERS]
I know we can't be the only people who secretly wonder just a little bit about some single guys and why they aren't with somebody. Do they secretly hate women (yes, we've met some that actually do), are they just too lazy (or busy, maybe...but hey, we're all busy) to find someone, are they serial killers and/or just not very nice guys? [/quote]
Oh, I hope you are! That's a really unfortunate outlook to have. Promising relationships take time to find, let alone build to the requisite amount of trust and stability to try things like this. In the mean time, I don't see anything wrong with someone pursuing their interests while still holding out for someone worthy of their emotional investment. To me, that behavior is quite attractive should be respected! It doesn't get any better than someone who is confident, self-actualized, and motivated to pursue their desires. Sadly, it sounds their gender influences whether this is seen as a desirable trait.
I'm not sure how long you've been out of things (30 years?), but it's easy to forget the struggle when you're comfortable in a marriage. Things are more fluid. People don't feel the need to settle down like they used to.
[quote=EVILDOERS]I know many will say they've tried and swinging is a deal breaker for most women. After almost 3 decades in the swinging trenches meeting and talking to other people, both couples and singles, we would disagree....many, if not most, women could eventually come around to the idea of swinging once they feel safe and secure in a relationship.[/quote]
This is just confirmation bias if the evidence comes from a sample of people you have met while swinging.
[quote=EVILDOERS]...those of us who DID put in all the blood, sweat, and tears into a relationship and allow it to grow to the point of daring (don't think for a second we aren't risking a LOT in opening up our relationships to other people!) to allow others access to our significant other sometimes wonder why some others want to take a shortcut to all the sweet swinging bennies with little or no risk on their own part.[/quote]
If you're not comfortable sharing your wife with someone you might view as a potential competition, you definitely don't have to. On the other hand, there are a lot of people enjoy it :) This smacks of the old “you must suffer as I did†chestnut.
BD/SM- Why are there no groups? - - Now this IS Terry. OMG, did I unleash a monster when I put a profile on Fetlife.com for her? Just kidding, she's an angel. Even if there might be just a touch of devil, or at least imp. Anyway, that didn't work out as well as hoped, like Evil said, most fetish groups don't swing, their events aren't usually about sex, just discussions, socializing, and demonstrations, with people doing scenes with the people they're already in a BDSM relationship with.
And before someone asks me "well, why don't you just ...", it's simple. She's into some things I'm not and in that life, if you aren't really into something, even if you do know what to do and how to do it, you can't really be a very good Dom. Since the guy is supposed to make the girl happy, I did the Fetlife profile for her.
The first thing a new person who's interested in some BDSM group will get told is "We don't swing", that he/she isn't going to be able to go to an event or even party and hook up with someone, that even if he/she gets invited to participate in someone's scene (it does happen occasionally) it isn't likely to culminate in actual sex. Which makes it difficult for someone who wants her BDSM to be part of actual sex.
One thing though, Evil. The Fifty Shades of Gray phenomenon notwithstanding, BDSM is more secretive than swinging. Anyone who finds a swing event online can attend, unless he's a single male and it's a no single males thing. Not so with BDSM. Fetlife, for example, has more than one sub-group that sponsors events. You can find the events on the site, but you can't just go to them. You have to be sponsored by someone from that group. And not everyone in the group, people who themselves have been through the process and can attend the group's events without a sponsor, can even be a sponsor. There are always specific requirements and a process of some sort to go through to become approved to sponsor new people.
There's still a stronger stigma attached to BDSM than there is to swinging, and the potential consequences to being outed are more severe, especially in a place like Utah. So the people are much more cautious than are swingers, and swingers don't exactly put up billboards ads on the highway. ~ Terry
Disneyland swingers - - We just got back from Disneyland. too bad.
Where to start? - So many options, so little time! - Sorry but people’s advice here is waaay to complicated. And honestly not really specific for these times.
Make a promise to each other that no matter what happens you will be honest with each other. This is the key! And you will be respectful and honest with whom you meet.
Then find a meet and greet style of party, show up, meet people and ASK QUESTIONS! Swingers love to help newbs. Use the car ride there and home to have honest discussions of the wants and why and then after you meet people positives and whom you might wanna ask out for a date.
If you start right now trying to find blind dates on sites like this you may get so frustrated you will quit before you start. It’s a disaster. Most things are moving to fb because people are tired of this online fake profile/cheater mess.
Swingers now officially a high risk group for STDs and STIs - Do your own research - [quote=EVILDOERS]Perhaps more accurately, you were "STD (actually STI is a more current and descriptive term) free" at that moment you were tested (many STI's have various incubation periods before they are seriologically detectable-HIV can take up to 6 months). Additionally many STI's (most strains of HPV) there is currently no test for. So you are STI free for only those STI's that were tested for in your panel. There are MANY intections that can be spread sexually that one wouldn't normally consider an STD. Sorry, don't mean to shit in your Cheerios but far too many of us have a severe case of cognitive dissonance when it comes to STI's in the lifestyle. Swinging (and life, as pointed out by CHETDO) is a risk. You can minimize the risk somewhat by adopting certain protocols and behaviors but never decrease it to zero as long as you continue to swing. If you swing you must accept that you are engaging in risky behavior and be okay with that. We've been around the scene actively and inactivley for a long time and have seen and heard it all as far as those who would delude themselves that taking any of the above actions (other than monogamy) would make them safe from STI's. The sad truth is that MOST of us (if not all) have been exposed to and likely carry some form of STI already. If this were not the case they would offer Gardisil to adults. So that horse has likely already left the barn, so to speak. It's a little like riding a motorcycle. If you don't want to be involved in a motorcycle accident, don't ride. If you don't want an STI don't swing. Helmets (condoms) can help but some asshole can still run over you. [em]Emo_67[/em] [/quote]
Well, it has pretty much been 6 months between test. As for HPV yes she even had a pap-smear. Most everybody on the planet that has ever been sexually active probably contracted HPV at some point the question is whether or not their bodies cleared it. In our case that seems to be the case. At least there is no visible evidence to be found.
Well, frankly it will probably be a full year before we run into someone willing to be oh so exclusive, that we find attractive and they find us attractive etc., etc., and at that point there will be some re-testing. In the meantime, we will be happy fucking each other silly and maybe allowing others to watch us fuck each other silly whilst we watch them fuck each other silly. If that is how we roll, as these crazy kids put it, no problem. We will re-test in about three months and then six months and a year regardless.
Neither one of us can count the number of people we have sexed up on both hands time three and some change since we started this swing thing. In all that time and with all the others we have known oh so intimately we have always remained more attracted to each other and aroused by each other then anyone else. As I keep saying.....We are pretty fucking lucky!! If monogamy is the order of the day, or the end all experience then let it be! We suspect there are still a few sexy adventures,including others in some fashion, yet left in life.
Swingers In Uniform - Pay your memorial day respects here. - Hello,
I have a small penny to put into this.
Don Juan, you are very wrong. People like u that say I pay my taxes that pay your wages. Guess what, for the past 17 years I've been paying taxes too. Just because our pay comes out of taxes doesn't make u my boss. Teachers, Soldiers, Sailors, Police, Firemen, EMT's. We all pay taxes. And too bad to say, Police, Soldiers, Sailors, EMT's, and Marines don't have a choice on who we protect or save.
Memorial day is to remind the public to remember those that fell in the line of duty. Those that gave the greatest sacrafice for this country. It doesn't matter what war, or the reason. They served this country and lost their life doing it. It shows in all the military's core values. Honor is always first. So honor the fallen, don't disgrace them.
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Swinging capitol of USA - What state is the Swinging Capitol of USA and why? - This site has a heavy Utah involvement but we think that there are probably more swingers in Florida in terms of actually numbers and as a percentage of the population but that is just us guessing. Back before the internet it seemed that swingers and swing clubs were more common in Orange County California and up in San Francisco. Is Las Vegas the swingers capital city? It is not a census question and nobody is really counting so who knows. It seems to us that there are very few people in Utah that identify themselves as being swingers that do not have a profile on Swingular. Utah appears to be the digital capital of Swingular! We doubt we represent a very large percentage of the states overall population but we are organized active and we are perhaps less incognito. Some of the rest of the states with Swingular members might even go so far as to say loud and obnoxious.
I wonder about where and how swinging exist in the rest of the country. Back when I was single and traveling around playing music the most sexually liberal single sorts seemed to be mostly along the coast or at least I got lucky near the ocean. California of course which had so many many many beautiful women and on the other side of the country Ocean City Maryland. Oh my oh my Ocean City! I have always wondered if there are swingers and a swing community in Ocean City? Did all those young leggy, earthy sun kissed women become sexy mature wives and are they still so darn sexually consuming in bed? Anybody want to shout out for Ocean City? Swinger wives, swinger wives in Ocean City do you exist?
Pineapple Stickers - pineapple sticker = swingers? - I have a pineapple shirt I wear to the gym sometimes...
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