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Swinging and LS questions - Resources for success - People who tend to do well in their closest relationships and other social interactions overall, probably do well as swingers. Swinging includes sex, which is a powerful interaction, physically and emotionally. Having sex with someone can have all sorts of long lasting positive and negative effects. Most of us really want to express our sexuality, and we hold it dear, so we tend to evaluate people a bit differently, if we are considering having sex with them. Perhaps the stakes are a bit higher, even if the sex is no strings attached. The rewards and the risk are elevated. There are a lot of great resources available, to help people learn how to communicate and interact with each other, more effectively. They apply to human interactions within our community where we do take a few more risk in search of more reward. Obviously, we can all learn from other peoples experience. So if there are successful swingers, that are providing their insights and support through the media, why not look into it? Enlightenment is fun and is often a free standing reward. Enlightenment and discovery, gained through shared experience with a lover, perhaps leaves everyone involved stronger and happier. Stronger happier people make for stronger happier communities.

Reply or don't reply for requests to meet? - - Their emotional response probably has more to do with their over all experience with the lifestyle than to anything you said or didn't say did or didn't do. Here goes my thoughts..... People have a hard time emotionally disconnecting. People can be irrational. Sometimes we do not know why the react as they do but then we do not know the back story. They, or we may be associating something they, or we said with a whole lot of experience that had nothing to do with our or their intent. Our primitive brain functions which include release of the chemicals that color emotions have full access to our prefrontal cortex where we have the power of reason. With all the reasoning capability our prefrontal cortex manifest, it has very, very little ability to turn off our more primitive brain. The pathways just are not there. So our primitive brain has full chemical access to our bodies and higher brain but our higher brains do not have equal access to alter our primitive brain and emotional responses. So we have an emotional reaction, which our reasoning cannot turn off, so in order to try and make our minds match the emotion we are feeling we alter our reasoning. It is called making a mountain out of a mole hill. This loss of reason manifests as irrational behavior and can lead to resentment and negative premeditations such as revenge and violence. Sex drive is emotionally charged. Sex chemicals defy reason more than most and so do the chemicals associated with anger. So the brain function design flaw can make the emotion verses reason imbalance more dramatic when sex is involved. Knowing that, Swingers should recognize that just because you feel angry it does not mean you should be angry. If you let negative emotions color your reason you may be acting irrationally. Drama, drama, drama is what you get. Our rational, reasonable minds are capable of unbelievable accomplishments. Through the scientific method we have cured many, many diseases, we fly all over the globe, we travel and live beyond our atmosphere and under the sea, we share and communicate with small hand held devices and we even form internet social groups that revolve around specific shared interest. The sphere of accomplishments is too long a list to name let alone full understand. No one person can understand or master one, one millionth of all that has to be learned and mastered to make all this happen. So we are capable of incomprehensible collaborative efforts. And yet, we fight and we bicker and we accuse and we are sometimes unreasonably suspicious. Reason without emotion is perhaps safe but not much fun. We want to experience emotions with friends and lovers. The secret answer to successful social interaction almost seems to be to master the art of recognizing when something is positive and healthy and then let the flood gates open up jump in and be overwhelmed and if something is just not right to back off physically but to also emotionally disconnect. The something that is just not right, that may be leading you into angry, sad, or fearful paths may be more within you than without as well. If what is inside you is ugly or afraid emotionally and you let that color your reason then that may be all you can see in people and the world without and you get caught in a vortex of anger or fear. People think they become emotional because of their paranoia but in fact they become paranoid because they were negatively emotional and then the paranoia fed the emotions and on and on. I have attached a link to a video I found this week quite by accident that speaks to this and quite a bit more. For you that are into physics professionally or as amateurs, that will enjoy scrutinizing the math, as far as the math goes, to me I see where this is going but the statement is made

Question for those in the lifestyle - What is the answer! - I'm not going to speculate as to who caused his dilemma, there's not information and it's one sided. I think his main problem now is VENUE. Why would you choose swinging as a method for satisfying your sexual REQUIREMENTS? You're not going to find a more unsympathetic group of people when it comes to cheating, it goes against the whole ideology of swinging. Why not open a road side porn shop in Iran, sooner our later you will have a customer but you'll mostly get dirt blown in your face. I'll give you the 4 stars for the honesty, it's always good to have a heads up you might get named in a civil suit (divorce) and have to appear in court and explain to the good judge why we were bedding her hubby and how we all met, so yes you get props for the honesty. Among our vanilla friends which includes people we work with, family members, friends of friends etc. the number of swingers pales in comparison to the number of cheaters. If this group ever UNIONIZES we are in deep doody, they have the numbers in membership. Also, I think most of the non-married single men in the lifestyle would tell you being single can be a challenge without any "issues". You would also be far more welcomed in the union group (cheaters) and they would be more sympathetic to your needs as you would for their needs. This kind of "sharing" could even lead to a long term cheating relationship, I've never seen one last but you could be the first. If there's one theme that runs through profiles I'd say "NO DRAMA" is one of the top 5 on the countdown list. Your "unique" situation has the potential of bringing great drama to couples who just like getting naked with a few friends as an escape from everyday life. You have been on this site well over 2 years, that could mean you have had a lot of dirt blown in your face and you thought it was time to mount an ad campaign. My advice, look for the UNION LABEL.

Lusting After the EVER ELUSIVE Male-with-Hallpass - The Great Swingular Mystery - We both have hall passes that are discussed and approved on a case by case basis. Here is where we see the imbalance occurs. Men looking to swing are far more plentiful then women looking to swing and I dare say that is true within and without a marriage agreement. Yes there are some really liberated sexy and sexual women in the lifestyle but they are out numbered. Within the lifestyle, approaching someone about having sex is supposedly not considered inappropriate and getting a no answer is not supposed to be a problem. That not always being how approaches are received or a no answer is delivered is another subject. So the multitudes of men make approaches. If a woman within the lifestyle has a hall pass she is going to get approached. Well, frankly she is going to get approached if she does not. There are not enough women with hall passes or single women looking to swing to satiate the demand in the lifestyle market created by the multitudes of interested men. Some ladies are having a great time giving it a try. The law of supply and demand as applied to swinging. Knowing and understanding this, frankly, the Mrs. sees no reason to go shopping for men to play with because she does not need to. Knowing this, frankly, I have never gone out shopping for s single female or a married woman within the lifestyle community with a hall pass. I see how many men my wife politely refuses. Shopping online I suppose I might have the same experience as the majority of men out there making request. Yes some of the men making online advances make a pretty bad first impression. If their foot in their digital mouth suggests an emergent flaw in the expression of their DNA or it is just bad learned behaviors and attitudes, well this is a fun based undertaking for us and not social work so jerks get a quick and lasting no. In fact most single men and men looking to play with Mrs. Delicious using a hall pass get a no. Many of which are most probably great guys. Sex is upfront and open in the lifestyle and so, men, ask to have sex and women usually do not have to ask for sex because they have several friend request and e-mails to consider every week if not everyday where sex is the requesters primary motivation. The male requesters list of expectations from her, are usually not as demanding as the list she has for him before there is a fuck agreement. If a couple wants to see some balance in the number of sexual partners they each have as swingers then, perhaps, it may require that the female half be a bit reserved and accept only as many offers as her main squeeze can find. Same goes for the frequency of sexual encounters. We prefer hooking up with couples but we will on occasion entertain a single. Usually the MFM hookups are men we picked and not a guy contacting us. The guys that aggressively send a new friend request or let

Hotel Check In - - Anyone who works in a hotel for more than a few months will see some pretty freaky shit. Swingers are probably kind of mild compared to some of the things that they encounter.

KUTV News Story on Swingers - News - I think it'd be fit that after the expose airs some poor schlub at the station holds on to the profile and finds the key to a lifetime of happiness herein, finally able to be themselves.

couples with kids - - We have 4 kids, 3 of which are under 3 years old. An 8 year old girl, 2 year old twin girls, and a one year old boy, so we totally understand the frustration that comes along with being loving parents and active swingers. To two worlds aren't always compatable. We have tried in vain to find a good sitter for all the kids, so most of the time we end up swinging when our oldest is off at a sleepover with a friend and the other babies are in bed. Today for instance, my wife and I had our girlfriend over for fun till 5:30 this morning and the kids got up an hour later!lol. So I am up with them taking care of the kids while the women sleep it off. Hard, but a small price to pay for a hot 3-some! Anyhow, as most swinging parents know....get it when you can, and if not....NO BIG DEAL. The kids needs come first. It's only sex after all. Just would like to say thanks to all the hot couples in Utah that have invited us to house parties etc. Some day we will get a sitter and get out of the house! I promise! ~A & J~

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Newbie "outdoorsy" couple interested in the softer side. - Wish to develop a friendship with another couple in S ID, N UT - [quote=EVILDOERS] What, specifically, feels intimidating? Or perhaps a better question would be what do you fear? Are you afraid that one of you will fall in love with a playmate and leave the marriage? Or that one or both of you will like swinging too much and become big ole sluts? LOL Or maybe you're afraid of contracting a horrific sexually transmitted disease and your junk will fall off? *grin* Most of us are TERRIBLY bad at risk assessment and more often than not we fear things that are statistically FAR less likely to happen than things we don't seem to fear all that much. Some people won't fly in planes even though they are FAR less likely to die in a plane crash than driving their car to Walmart. And many swingers are deathly afraid of getting AIDS even though it's really quite hard to contract compared to, say, HSV, which most adults have actually already been exposed to. Identifying why you're intimidated might be a better use of your time than trying to find a needle in a haystack. But in the end, do what you're comfortable doing. If you think finding another newbie couple is the least intimidating way to dip your toes in then, by all means, do that. Those of us who have been around the scene for a while, however, could tell you some of the drawbacks to meeting people who are newbies. Personally, we would seek out a more experienced couple, albeit one who is NOT pushy and is willing to go at your pace and is looking for friendship more than sex. The reason I say that is if things DO turn sexual, a more experienced couple is less likely to freak out or have other issues that they haven't already dealt with. Either way, good luck.[/quote] Damn! You must be like an intuitive or something. Yes, my biggest fear is my wiener falling off...and then, my libido cruelly kicking into overdrive. Can you imagine???!!!😳 I believe my use of "intimidating" was a little off. How about nervous? You know...a little jittery, some anxiousness, and excitement all rolled into one...sorta what you'd feel if you were a beginner.😉 Re HIV/AIDS: Looking at the statistics doesn't comfort me in the context of hard core LSing. Now, I could mentally reshape those numbers to suit my desires but...really, it's of no concern to me as we're not interested in the harder side of things. Thanks for your input. I have made a few adjustments to my post and our profile.

Swingers Dares - Text for cards in the game - WOW! We especially like the blindfold ideas... those are HOT! Sign us up TCMissy... we don't need our own version, we'll come over and play yours ;)

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