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Is it just us who get a little discouraged when profiles have only one picture? Or only pictures of the female? It may sound superficial, but I think most LS couples are looking for attraction between all four and being able to have an idea or at least a little example of all involved would be helpful.

Or is it just us 🤷🏼‍♂️
Talk about a giant red flag, those are the profiles we avoid.
Ya, it’s slightly irritating… 🤷🏼‍♂️
Oh so many things to complain on that. No pictures the biggest pet peeve, then one picture, then only pictures of her, then no private pics but ask to see yours, and our biggest issue are pictures that are not recent or so filtered they don't look like them.

We had a couple that we were friends with come up and introduce themselves at an event we were attending. We had no clue who they were until they said their username. We had to go back and look again, only to see they are not the same as their pictures.

We could make a long list of other issues too (e.g. lying about age, marital status, etc). We are sure all "dating" sites experience the same issue but when we see the following this is what is means to us:

* No picture - they aren't serious and just checking things out
* One picture - they know they need something but still aren't quite serious
* No pictures of the male - the male half is not attractive
* No body pictures - they are overweight
* No face pictures - they have great bodies but not pretty faces
* No pictures of the female - she doesn't exist or isn't aware
Utahldscouple wrote:

Oh so many things to complain on that. No pictures the biggest pet peeve, then one picture, then only pictures of her, then no private pics but ask to see yours, and our biggest issue are pictures that are not recent or so filtered they don't look like them.
We had a couple that we were friends with come up and introduce themselves at an event we were attending. We had no clue who they were until they said their username. We had to go back and look again, only to see they are not the same as their pictures.
We could make a long list of other issues too (e.g. lying about age, marital status, etc). We are sure all "dating" sites experience the same issue but when we see the following this is what is means to us:
* No picture - they aren't serious and just checking things out
* One picture - they know they need something but still aren't quite serious
* No pictures of the male - the male half is not attractive
* No body pictures - they are overweight
* No face pictures - they have great bodies but not pretty faces
* No pictures of the female - she doesn't exist or isn't aware


You are wise… 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
I guess I should update our pictures! We don't take a lot of photos of ourselves. I agree though I like seeing pictures of both the man and the women, and faces. Also being authentic is important to me, filters bug me. We don't have "perfect" bodies and whenever we get more photos up I'm not going to try to hide what we really look like. We have a picture of our faces you can see when we become friends but really that's about it. Maybe I should just make it our main photo and not worry about someone we know seeing us. What kind of photos does everyone like to see?

Utahldscouple your list is very helpful! 😁
MarriedLovers wrote:

Utahldscouple your list is very helpful! 😁
We can't tell you how many times we haven't insisted on seeing one of the above and like clockwork it turns out to be true. We say it all the time just be who you are, doesn't matter what you look like or age there is someone that will be attracted to you and vice versa. Just be who you are the rest will fall out.

Yes the male half here can be an asshole at times but only to people that are assholes. So if you see that, you know that person is an asshole.
I agree be who you are. So many people get more attractive once you get to know them. Plus I thought the LS was more about accepting people the way they are vs. What they look like. So there shouldn't be a reason not to be yourself.
It’s not frustrating at all for us … we just don’t give the time of day to anyone without pictures of both, including their bods … which seems to be way more prevalent on here compared to other better sites.
What’s really odd is that we used to be on this site when it first started. So… a while ago. And some people we know/knew still have accounts with the SAME PICTURES. LOL.
What’s really odd is that we used to be on this site when it first started. So… a while ago. And some people we know/knew still have accounts with the SAME PICTURES. LOL.
Utahldscouple wrote:


* No pictures of the male - the male half is not attractive


you nailed this one. I'm only pretty on the inside lol
It also bothers me when it is just pictures of the body. There's more to a person than just the body.
SUENDAN wrote:

Utahldscouple wrote:


* No pictures of the male - the male half is not attractive

you nailed this one. I'm only pretty on the inside lol
Let’s be real, the female half is always better looking. We all want to see more of them. Mrs Utah says she can only downgrade so much 😂!
One picture is often your clue that it's a dead account only preserved for appearance. If there are a lot of N/A answers and only a few basic lines to the narrative, then bet on it. That profile from back in the day has long since been abandoned and there's no one at the other end to reply.
For every "example/rule" given in this thread, there is an exception. Some of the BEST people we have met on this site over the years ( yeah, we are kind of O.G.'s on this site ) have been a profile we "took a chance on" -

No Pictures can mean....
** People are nervous ( understandably ) of being "outed"
** Met one couple that were both **ahem Law Enforcement and they COULD NOT post pictures (policy) for fear of losing their employment ( this also was the case for a elementary School Teacher we met )

I guess what I am babbling about is... try to not pre-judge so harshly, take a chance. You just might be glad you did.
MarriedLovers wrote:

I guess I should update our pictures! We don't take a lot of photos of ourselves. I agree though I like seeing pictures of both the man and the women, and faces. Also being authentic is important to me, filters bug me. We don't have "perfect" bodies and whenever we get more photos up I'm not going to try to hide what we really look like. We have a picture of our faces you can see when we become friends but really that's about it. Maybe I should just make it our main photo and not worry about someone we know seeing us. What kind of photos does everyone like to see?
Utahldscouple your list is very helpful! 😁


Keep in mind that anyone checking out the website can see your main photo, but none of your other photos. So, it's reasonable to not show your face or other identifying information in the main photo. Other than that, though, there is little risk in showing faces in the rest of your public photos, as only paying members will be able to see them. If someone you know spots you, well, that just means they, too, are paying members of the site. They can hardly take a "holier than thou" attitude in that case. And, of course, you can afford to be more risque in your private photos.
Utahldscouple wrote:

Let’s be real, the female half is always better looking. We all want to see more of them. Mrs Utah says she can only downgrade so much 😂!


haha I could bee too low for your mrs. but somehow we always get to play. According to Sue I'm handsome interesting and have a way with the ladies. I think she's just in love.
SUNRISE wrote:

MarriedLovers wrote:

I guess I should update our pictures! We don't take a lot of photos of ourselves. I agree though I like seeing pictures of both the man and the women, and faces. Also being authentic is important to me, filters bug me. We don't have "perfect" bodies and whenever we get more photos up I'm not going to try to hide what we really look like. We have a picture of our faces you can see when we become friends but really that's about it. Maybe I should just make it our main photo and not worry about someone we know seeing us. What kind of photos does everyone like to see?
Utahldscouple your list is very helpful! 😁

Keep in mind that anyone checking out the website can see your main photo, but none of your other photos. So, it's reasonable to not show your face or other identifying information in the main photo. Other than that, though, there is little risk in showing faces in the rest of your public photos, as only paying members will be able to see them. If someone you know spots you, well, that just means they, too, are paying members of the site. They can hardly take a "holier than thou" attitude in that case. And, of course, you can afford to be more risque in your private photos.



Never underestimate the dumbassery of crazy. Crazy people will often screw themselves over while attempting to screw the other guy over.
CNTRLCPL wrote:

For every "example/rule" given in this thread, there is an exception. Some of the BEST people we have met on this site over the years ( yeah, we are kind of O.G.'s on this site ) have been a profile we "took a chance on" -
No Pictures can mean....
** People are nervous ( understandably ) of being "outed"
** Met one couple that were both **ahem Law Enforcement and they COULD NOT post pictures (policy) for fear of losing their employment ( this also was the case for a elementary School Teacher we met )
I guess what I am babbling about is... try to not pre-judge so harshly, take a chance. You just might be glad you did.
Mitigated with private photos. At some point in time the person you are chatting with will want to see photos and not just roll the dice and hope for the best. We have done that one too many times in our early years and have learned the hard way.
[/quote]Mitigated with private photos. At some point in time the person you are chatting with will want to see photos and not just roll the dice and hope for the best. We have done that one too many times in our early years and have learned the hard way.[/quote]

Learned what the hard way? I mean, our famous line to each other is "It's just drinks" - Like I said, we've taken chances on people that e-mailed us ( minus pics ) and set up a meet at a bar or restaurant ( I mean, we're going to go out anyway ) and have met some great people. I'm not going to say that we've never been "duped", but, that too is part of this game. Also, returning an e-mail on here ( to someone without pics ) isn't some kind of contract to meet and/or sleep with them.

My point was, you may have passed on a LOT of good people that may have just had a hang up about positing their private life ( with photos ) into the www.universe

This subject, as with all subjects in this realm is all about comfort level, personal preferences and rules between you and your partner too of course. I am in no way telling anyone how to screen profiles, just posting our personal experience.
CNTRLCPL wrote:


Learned what the hard way? I mean, our famous line to each other is "It's just drinks" - Like I said, we've taken chances on people that e-mailed us ( minus pics ) and set up a meet at a bar or restaurant ( I mean, we're going to go out anyway ) and have met some great people. I'm not going to say that we've never been "duped", but, that too is part of this game. Also, returning an e-mail on here ( to someone without pics ) isn't some kind of contract to meet and/or sleep with them.
My point was, you may have passed on a LOT of good people that may have just had a hang up about positing their private life ( with photos ) into the www.universe
This subject, as with all subjects in this realm is all about comfort level, personal preferences and rules between you and your partner too of course. I am in no way telling anyone how to screen profiles, just posting our personal experience.
Agreed to each their own.
CNTRLCPL wrote:

My point was, you may have passed on a LOT of good people that may have just had a hang up about positing their private life ( with photos ) into the www.universe


👍

The possibility of having passed up good matches has occurred to us many times. But, for us, it would be for the lack of writing in their profile over the lack of pics. They could be movie star beautiful but if they're at the opposite end of the philosophical/life view spectrum from us, it wouldn't matter how attractive they were. We're probably not going to match up well. But, it's pretty tough to get a general feel for someone who writes just a sentence or two that says something like "We just wanna have fun". On the other hand, it does tell us this: If those type of profiles are indeed for real people, and that's the best they're willing to do, chances are good we wouldn't be a good match anyway. But, we wouldn't know for certain.🤨🤷‍♂️

Unsolicited advice to those who have standards and are serious in upping their odds in finding compatible people: Have a number of pics in your "public" album (they don't need to be face shots if you don't want) and have at least a couple paragraphs in the "About Us" and the "What We're Looking For" sections. You don't need to be Shakespeare to give people a general feel for you.
Unicornthruple wrote:

What’s really odd is that we used to be on this site when it first started. So… a while ago. And some people we know/knew still have accounts with the SAME PICTURES. LOL.


LOL … we just joined another site, and put up all new photos … and it’s funny , many of the local profiles on there have the exact same Old pics as their photos on here … from ages ago ! 🤣😂🥲
It would tell me either their not too serious, not very confident or don't have a clue
I’ve tried and tried, but I can’t seam to get to pics to download on my profile. I’m sure it’s just something simple that I’m not doing.
Being a single male on this site means my opinion probably doesn’t matter but I’ll share it anyway. I used to have a lot more public and private pics on here but I found them being used somewhere else and took them down. Also, I do have some private pics that I’ve taken with couples that I’m not comfortable sharing someone else wife on my profile.
No pics can mean: "We know this site could get hacked and personal photos sent to our family."

Pics can mean: "Catfishing"

Ask them to show you what they look like on webcam. It's much harder to fake.
Yes, to all of the above. We're actually going to clean out the "friends" list this weekend.
Over the years we've discovered that not just within the lifestyle, generalized evaluations, as to why and how people do things, like how they self-represent, online or otherwise, don't match up with those same people once you actually meet them. That's not to say that everyone online or otherwise you'll actually meet will be a good person. So yes, online evaluations, well we all just have to do our best to try and evaluate who might be a match.

As for self-presentations within the website's constraints, we can build custom video and photo albums and make them invisible to guest and trial members. You can also just make them invisible to everyone, or you can grant some people access on a case-by-case basis. So, we seem to have the option to become almost invisible to almost anybody, while still making ourselves visible to other people with profiles, even before there has been a friend request, should we just kind of want them to see our faces, or our bodies, or both. With that said, we don't know for sure all of that actually works on this site. Also, we are not sure that very many people actually look to see if there are any custom albums in other's profiles.