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We are looking for couples and ladies who actually want to meet
We've somewhat run into alot of flakes lately. It could be a mix of things we like to chat a bit first general a week maybe 2 weeks before meeting someone. Most people lately have been wanting to meet asap! And thats something we cant do without proper planning and we have kids. We like to tell those we chat with now that we need to plan ahead but the wait with us will be well worth it.
Yeah there are a lot of couples that just like to meet and fuck that night. We def aren't that way we like to chat meet up and then see if we want to meet up again. Hit us up shakura89
Some are content, it seems, to be aroused by posting a profile and getting mail from peeps that want to be sexual with them ... I don't know ???
Some have the other half who never know really what day they will be home or when they will leave again makes planing very hard
Mixed results we have met a few great friends in the lifestyle. We prefer a few close friends that we play with on a regular basis. Quality is better than quantity to us. A lot of flakes and always a lot of people trying to cheat. It's one thing if we know you and we know you other half is out of town and you want to play but hate when u get someone saying oh my partner isn't feeling well but can I still come type shit and you have never met the other half.
Patience. Like others said, We like to get to know the people first.

People that say things like that make us say "NOPE!"

A lot of us have kids and demanding careers. The LS is not top on the list of priorities.
We've met and played around with 2 couples on this site but we met them at the moose lounge before taking it to that level. We like to see their personality come out and get to know them at least a little bit before we hop into bed. Looks aren't always what we look for, we found some really cool couples we loved to be around and we thank the parties at The Moose for bringing us together.
We had another friend who mentioned the lifestyle requires good communication amongst friends. We still have an occasional sticking point with a situation where we like a couple purely as friends but not interested in taking it further because there was little to no chemistry. For us it really is couple's dating another couple as a unit. So, if a couple is having trouble meeting peopke then it's important to ask, "Are we asking the right couple." ....i.e. similar age and appearance. Like any "online dating" it starts with superficial attraction.
We are very real and like to meet couples. We also host a couples poker game that many off this site have attended and we think enjoyed :)

We do not play on the first meeting. It is hard to match two people let alone four people. We prefer to meet for dinner, get to know someone and go home. If we all want to meet for a playdate, it is easy to set up.

Everyone has their own idea of the LS and that is perfectly fine, we just do what is best for us.
So just as everything else in life folks have preferences. So what you maybe attracted to is not attracted to you. We get this all the time probably because of age, who knows maybe its his beard. We have found the swingers in Salt Lake to be very friendly and we find we get responses pretty easy in our age group. Comparatively speaking we have never had a response on this web site from anyone we have written to in 4 years in Houston where we live. Good thing we spend about 8 weeks in the Salt Lake area.
NAUGHTYPHOEBE wrote:

We find it hard to meet people here. No one returns emails or they reach only to not follow up.

Certainly a number of fake people here but a number of unsure people too. Shouldn't be here leading us down one path only to get cold feet that your bishop will find out and quit emailing.


We like to introduce our swinger potential partners to the Mormon bishop and the Catholic priest for approval... bishop always wants to join while the priest wants to film it...
We make them send a pic of both of us doing a hand gesture and tell them to reply with a pic of them doing the same gesture. It's worked great for us.
We also have hard time finding playmates but for a different reason. We are mostly a girl on girl couple. Most couples want to full swap and with us is mostly about the females having fun. Then you find that girl or couple just to flake at the last moment
We really aren't into meeting people with a moments notice, we want to meet with no expectations of fucking, if all is crazy good, then yes, sex might happen, but we want something that will last and not a one night fling. We are trying, but most people don't respond to us so we try to respond and let people know if we aren't interested, albeit a low occurrence.
Its just like any type of marketing, the narrower the market the fewer customers. Not everyone can accept restrictions. Perhaps these folks are doing you a favor to not mix their drama with your expectations. Best advice is to not let any of it bother you and move on to the next couple. If you swing enough times your sure to make contact.
I agree with what most of you have said--I have also found it difficult to meet people on here--they talk a big talk but when it come to meeting and showing up they flake out. Especially hard for me--I am a single old widower that no one wants to play with or even meet up.George
Not a lot, just enough to gum up the works. I just stand back a lot those who are for real get what they are looking for.
Now for the rush people they what they are looking for nothing.
Time and matching schedules are our biggest obstacle. We are fortunate enough to have fantastic family ties, friends, jobs, hobbies etc. When we want to play, and have time to play, we have found it's easy to find playmates. There are a kazillion super cool, super sexy people on this site. We wish we had enough time to get together with everyone we would like to meet. Take a deep breath and just know the adventures are out there. Sexy and successful is in many ways an attitude.
Well said Deliciouslywet! We have met nothing but very real, amazing people on here! Patience is a difficult attribute for many people. Most people have families, jobs, and responsibilities. Remember you are trying to sync and plan, 4 different lives, personalities, schedules, likes and dislikes. It's not easy, we never take offense to someone cancelling for whatever reason. Maybe there was an emergency, a sick kid, unexpected work schedule, or maybe they just decided we are not their thing! Which is their right, and should come before this. The nobody wants us or me, what's wrong with them mindset, can be very toxic. Being patient, open, understanding, and realizing this is not most people's main priority, and we promise you will meet some absolutely incredible people here! We most certainly have.
Don't most retired swingers move to Florida? 😁
We have the same issue. We just want to meet other couples. We also need time to get to know people. We want friends to hang out with and if more happened, then great, but at least like minded friends would be awesome! Feel free to message us anytime!
We have learned to use the site as secondary means to find real people because of the bs and flakes we mostly do party's as opposed to setting up a date on here.

Now we have meant quite a few couples and single guys on here that we are good friends with because of the site!
If fact we had a friend come to town this weekend that we met up with we had some drinks, laughs, and sex.

But don't depend on Swingular alone I mean it is the Internet and yes they can post untrue stuff on the Internet lol
When we first joined I was expecting to see big group orgies all the time, everyone just fucking everyone, none stop shenanigans, (kind of what movies made the 60's seem like), and everyone sharing sex stories on here, Reality is most people we have met have been respectful and discrete about it. House parties are usually the most relaxed with more opportunities to play compared to the clubs. We've had plenty of opportunities to swap with others, so I know the site works... one thing I do see a lot of are 5's looking to play with 8's and getting hurt when rejected. Sometimes people have to accept that they are a 5 and play with other 5's... we shy away from 9's and 10's lol
We're new here, and haven't been able to upload pictures. It seems that if you don't have actual pictures up, friend requests aren't accepted. We would like to meet some people to help show us the ropes, and get to know a few couples.
Housley wrote:

We're new here, and haven't been able to upload pictures. It seems that if you don't have actual pictures up, friend requests aren't accepted. We would like to meet some people to help show us the ropes, and get to know a few couples.


Yup, if you have nothing to share, others will not share with you. To many people just pic collecting...there are two "upload pic" options, use the first one. I can never get the second one to work.
Were real n like 2 have fun Im greg new 2 ogden text me 8018056977 lets all play n have fun
How to Accept Rejection:

Don't let it define you. Well, unless you get rejected for being an asshole. Then just accept the fact that you get rejected for being an asshole.

Be proud of yourself for trying. Move on and try again. There are a lot of people with different taste. The next couple or sexy single you send a blind friend request to, may already be masturbating over your profile content, and you just made their day.

Don't catastrophize. If everyone turns you down, remember there are two friends, always available that will never forsake you. Liquor and pornography.

Focus on the positive aspects of the rejection (if there are any).

Don't take it personally. Blame other people. It couldn't possibly be your own fault.
I think I just pee'd my pants!!😂😂😂😂😂
H1392014 wrote:

I think I just pee'd my pants!!😂😂😂😂😂


You should add that to your profile. Squirters are really popular.
I get the rejection, I just wish people would come out and reject rather than ignore and hope all goes away.

Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to. Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly.
Don't make a big production.
Don't make up an elaborate story.
This will help you avoid a big tear-jerking scene.
If you want to date other people say so, Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious, There's still a feeling of rejection when someone says
She preferres the company of others to your exclusive company, But if you're honest, and direct and avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you break the news the boy will respect you for your frankness and honestly he'll apeciate the kind of straightfoward manner in which you told him your decision unless he's a real jerk or a crybaby you will remain friends.

Right!
Deliciouslywet.... I think that was the funniest comment I have ever seen from you... sorry though, I'm not a squirter. 😁😂
Haha as a single guy it's challenging to even get someone to plan and have the opportunity to flake
unameit wrote:

There is nobody on this site that is willing to talk or meet. Ladies why do you even get on here if your going to act like that? I am a very attractive man with a amazingly beautiful girlfriend that anyone would dream about being with. I have been trying to meet people for awhile and everyone seems to be out of it. I don't put pics on here due to career but am willing to send pics in private. If your going to sign up on here them mingle or get off. Sorry for the rant its just how I feel.


Would imagine many couples and ladies do talk, mingle and do meet others, just not you and your beautiful wife. I have a feeling the others you are trying to talk with and meet do have pictures on their profile. I wouldn't imagine you try and talk with or meet couples or ladies that have a profile like yours. I don't have enough fingers and toes to count the times I have been approached on here with men that tell me due to their careers that they can't post pictures. It seems you are sure your job will be in jeapordy if you post a fully clothed picture of the two of you with a black bar over your faces? You say you would send pictures in private but have none in your private album?
Am sure all are receptive if you tell them you will send to an email.
Why don't you make it easy and go out to the Moose and actually meet couples with your wife in that environment, if you are as exceptional as you state, I am sure you wouldn't have any trouble talking to anyone. I am betting your community up there would be very accepting based on the people I have talked to and even met that attend those gatherings. Just a rebuttal to your rant, that has seen your type of profile and excuses for years.
Could it be because you sound like a self aggrandizing ass. Could it be that we have expectations and standards you don't meet? Could it be that we simply aren't interested in another possible (since you are too self important to have your profile filled out or to include pictures) barbie and ken with what appears to be an over inflated sense of self importance.

Quite simply, if EVERYONE is rejecting you, YOU are the common denominator. Stop acting like a git, chin up, and stop whining. Post pictures, add some bloody commentary to your profile, calm your tits and have some fun.

unameit wrote:

There is nobody on this site that is willing to talk or meet. Ladies why do you even get on here if your going to act like that? I am a very attractive man with a amazingly beautiful girlfriend that anyone would dream about being with. I have been trying to meet people for awhile and everyone seems to be out of it. I don't put pics on here due to career but am willing to send pics in private. If your going to sign up on here them mingle or get off. Sorry for the rant its just how I feel.
cedarsingle2 wrote:

I have also noticed that 50 % of members do not read their mail regulary.


Stalker 😂😂😂😂
lolz this is a good play. you ask about why there are so many fake people and all the real people show up to defend themselves...it's like a garden weeding itself. well played.
We are looking for a couple in bama. All we hear is silence. Good thing we not paid members! Time to fish else where
Easynodrama wrote:

We are looking for a couple in bama. All we hear is silence. Good thing we not paid members! Time to fish else where
Not many fish on here from Bama.
Easynodrama wrote:

We are looking for a couple in bama. All we hear is silence. Good thing we not paid members! Time to fish else where


The search engine is your friend.
Not to sure what to tell you but. We have had life changing evenings and meet amazing new friends for life on this site.
Lol. Danm man! You sound just like us! We have run into the same wall so many times on this site. But then, we have also been lucky enough to meet a few new REAL friends. Just like in school, you have the posers, and sometimes you luck out and find a real jewel. in a couple of months we are gonna start a game night for real people who don't have excuses or hang ups about just hanging out. We want to meet people with open minds, and the desire to meet. It will probably be a potluck dinner followed by mmm? Cards against humanity? Uno challenge ( with house rules), who knows... We just want to meet and have some fun! We will let you know when it will start. We are in the middle of moving to a new house with no kids. If your interested friend us and well keep you in the loop. Btw this is for those in the salt lake city area.
We are a BI couple from Wyoming. We are having trouble meeting people in SLC. We are looking for FWB. We travel to SLC at least once a month
we are
I've been enjoying meeting people and having fun. In and out of the bedroom.