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New to this all - - Single guys donn't exactly have a easy time of it in the swinging world. It's made up mostly of couples with the occassional Unicorn (single female), and many couples have a "we're trading, but you're not providing the female part of the trade" attitude, which goes all the way back to when what is now called swinging was called wife swapping. And the vast majority of couples who are interested in inviting a single person to play with them are looking for a female, not a male. There just aren't very many people looking for a single male, and there are tons of them looking to be involved. So the numbers are against you. Besides that, it's hard for a single male to meet people. They're allowed to attend only a very, very few parties and/or events unless they have a female with them. Even the male half of a known swinging couple often isn't welcome if the female half isn't with him. He may be in a couple, but withput the woman he's just another single guy. Your best chance at someone being interested in you is online at a site like this. But, again, there are gazillions more single males than there are people looking for them, so the competition is pretty tough. To be a "winner", you usually need to be relatively young, pretty good looking, and fairly fit. So if you want to generate any interest, you have to post pics. And while nudes are a good idea if you hsave the body for it, straight dick pics are not, unless it's 10 inches long or something. And even then it might be a turn off more than a turn on for lots of people. If you don't have any pics of yourself posted, those difficult odds you face morph into impossible odds. If you do manage to attend any parties or events, chill. Don't be aggressive. Single males have a rep for assuming any woman at a swinger's function wants to jump into the sack with them. From what I've seen, most single males aren't like that, but enough are that single guys get labelled as a group, so the best way to behave is as if the woman you're talking to is someone you just met at some "normal" party. The only real difference between a swinging woman and a "normal" woman, whether she's single or in a couple, is that she doesn't think it's necessary to be in some kind of a relationship with someone in order to have sex. Female swingers are just as selective as women in general, and while her presence at a swinging party does mean she's interested in sex, she might not be interested right then, or she might not be interested in you. And a good way to turn that interest off if it's there is to act like it's a given that she wants you. The most important thing to remember is that it's always up to the woman. Whether anything happens, and if it does just what happens, is her decision. So post some pics, be just as respectful to any swinger women you might meet as you would be to any non-swinger woman and if she's part of a couple be respectful to her man, and good luck.

Swingers who also swing - golf get together - Let us know when and where we will be there. We both love to golf.

Anyone been to a Vegas Perfect Touch party? - - A few months ago we went to Vegas. We stayed at Rumors Hotel which is across the street from the HARD ROCK CAFE....this is where the meet n greet that we saw on the main page. Though we wanted to go by the time we did all the other things we were to tired to go. However, We saw tons and tons of people being dropped off both Friday and Saturday night. They were all going to a party in the same club as the meet n greet. Very sexy people if you asked me....tons of them. Not sure if they were all swinger or club promotions that you will find people passing out on the strip. Either way it was happening group of people. We did go swimming at Rehab in The Hard Rock and that in itself told us we were in the right place.....Tons of sexy people.....So would be worth a fun night on the dance floor. So next time we will go for sure and not plan so much at that time so we can go to the club too....So I would check it out and actually find the host....that way she can point you in the right direction and I am sure there will be tons of swingers as well. Sin City indeed!!!!

Not wanting husband? - - Yeah, I think that happens to everyone at one time or another. It's basically couples who are too insecure (or just assholes) and aren't REALLY swingers. They're usually just trying to game the system and more often than not the guy is trying to play his little harem (or at least threesome) fantasy without having to share his wife. When people contact us and suggest that just Ms. Evil join them for a little romp we usually send 'em this: ???(?_?)??? Edit: Dammit....that was 'sposed ta be a little emoticon dude flipping them off...

Hot wife play - all you new single men read this - Rather than just complaining we thought we offer a word about what many swinging couples might mean when they say yes to single men in their profile. This is mostly for all the new single guys, that really are single guys, that recently joined the site and the ones that have been here a while and still fail to prosper. "Hot Wife" is often used synonymous with the term Cuckold, but it is NOT how most swinger couples view “Hot Wife Play” so don't come off like the jerks in the porn you may be watching. Hot Wife Play for most of the swingers we know in Salt Lake is where the husband feels he has the hottest woman in the world, and wants to share her, and the wife enjoys all the erotic attention his devotion and fantasy creates for her. When in the mood, swinger couples are not looking for a sexual replacement for the husband, but rather a sex life enhancement adventure to share that includes a single man. The single man lucky enough to be a part of this sort of thing must be very respectful. The stuff of fantasy! Not all men measure up. Our wives don't want to be with physically or emotionally mediocre men. Husbands don't want to watch their wives with mediocre men. Cheaters, as in married men, playing without their wives should not prosper. Polite, respectful, attractive, intelligent and good humored single men can, and will do well in the swing community. We know some great guys. Maybe they should teach lessons. Single men need to take the emphasis off of "Hot Wife" as a singular fixation or lifestyle for couples that say “yes” to single men in their profile. Single men should consider it more of a fantasy and a pleasure for couples to make a reality, when that is what they desire, and they as single men can be part of that reality, if they are what the couple wants. Couples swing in other realms and often prefer couples hook ups most of the time. In other words, let's not consider it any more than what it is, a fantasy, and a possible reality that couples can use to hopefully enhance their relationship and single men can use to have sex with an incredibly passionate and orgasmic woman. Swinger couples, like us, sometimes wish to focus our attention on our hot wife's sexual fulfillment. She is so sexy that watching her in passion's full embrace, with another man can be extremely rewarding and erotic. As for me I watch until I can no longer wait to join in and ravish her. Sharing keeps a couple on their toes and their sex life exciting. Swinging couples usually try and stay sexy, attractive and interesting not just for any new lovers but for each other. The introduction of a sexy, new and different man in the equation is what ads all the spice in Hot Wife Play. Just because a guy is horny and he has a dick does not ad up to sexy or spice up the relationship. If a single guy wants to live the fantasy he needs to first become the fantasy. When a woman is just so sexually hot, that she is a gift to the world, and her passions and her orgasms cross over into the realm of the sacred, then encouraging the chosen, to join in such divine pussy worship is in reality a total fucking blast!! That is why we check yes to single men in our profiles and not because some guys have a dick and want to use it. Additional tips: Look good Smell good Have a sense of humor Be respectful Be patient Be honest Be healthy Be confident Be willing to host Good luck to all and have fun!

Deviantdoctors Orgy SATURDAY SEP 12th - Deviantdoctors Orgy SATURDAY SEP 12th - Dear Fellow Swingers, Our next orgy will be 9pm, Saturday, September 12th. We limit the participants to those who are HWP, aren't allergic to rules and are able to leave the drama behind. If you are interested, send us a note and be sure we are able to see pictures of HIM & HER. This often requires a Friend request. Don't be shy! Prior to contacting us we ask that you READ ALL OF THE INFORMATION BELOW to make sure you are comfortable with our requirements. Looking forward to hearing from you! XOXO, M&K Here is the basic gist for those of you who have not been yet... We find orgies refreshingly enjoyable. So many of the Utah "lifestyle" events are only social and filled with people who don't really know what they want in the lifestyle. At our orgy everyone who shows up gets naked and comes planning to have sex others at the event. We play a really fun and competitive game, usually trivia with boys against girls, that get's everyone naked within about 45 minutes. Our firm rules make it enjoyable and safe for everyone. The orgy atmosphere allows you to choose who they want to play with, without any pressure to play as a couple. No more need to achieve the near impossible four-way match. You may move about throughout the evening if things are clicking with who you started with. Nerves are very common. Overcoming them is part of the excitement. You must arrive between 900 and 930. At 930 the doors will be locked and the night will begin. We recommend arriving closer to 900. After everyone mixes their drinks (BYOB), we will play the game. Men vs. women. Each time either team loses, they must remove an article of clothing. Once all of one sex is naked, we rearrange the room and the play begins. We ask that you come prepared to get COMPLETELY NAKED and for HETEROSEXUAL SWAPPING. Same-sex and play with your partner is fine, but in addition to hetero swap play. CRITICAL RULES - ALL INDIVIDUALS, PLEASE READ THOROUGHLY...for the enjoyment and safety of all, you will be asked to leave if choose to not follow them. 1) Keep drinking under control. No getting drunk to where you are not in control. 2) No drugs on premises. If you indulge, do so before you come. 3) No means No AND Ask BEFORE you touch. 4) No surprise guests. If you have a couple you wish to come, they must contact us and be approved by us in advance. 5) No single males. 6) Everyone plays the game and everyone get naked. If you don't want to play, at any point, you are welcome to leave. 7) Protection will be used by all unless playing with your significant other. Condoms will be available, however, if you have special condoms you like we recommend bringing your own. 8) If you tell us you will be coming, follow through. If you "no show" you will not be allowed at any future events with us. However, notifying us in advance, even if it's last minute, lets you off the hook. Just keep us informed and be your word. 9) Don't post on Swingular or elsewhere that you are coming. Part of the magic of the event is to be totally surprised at who is there. Don't ask us either. You have to trust us that we will only allow attractive, high quality people to come. 10) Arrive before 930pm. 11) You will be required to sign a Non-Disclosure and Release of Liability document upon arrival. If you would like to view the document in advance, email us and we will send it to you.

Any economists out there? - serious question about our economy - Hmm... politics, economy and money, hot topic or what? I am definately not an "economist" nor do I play one on tv. LOL - What I do believe in is my own power to control my "wealth or lack thereof." I will not rely on someone else, especially the government to take care of me, in my old age, and I believe I am only "entitled" to what I can make/create/contribute in this capitalistic AND free society. History has proven there is always going to be corruption, dishonesty and greed - just like the stock market, and economy has/will continue to fluctuate. We are not victims here, and there are good people in government who really do what they can (yes, I actually take the time to talk to my legislators on issues that are important to me) - my opinion is that the ones who actually do the work, do not reside in the white house. Ok, it's late and I will thicken my skin for making this remark but, if I were ever running for office my slogan would say "I will work my ass off like a greedy, money-grubbing Republican to actually help my fellow man, like a Tree-hugging, money-spending Democrat!":) Good night you sexy swingers!

If you're going to blame your customer - At least remove the evidence it's your fault. - [quote=EVILDOERS]I'm the poster child for every fucking error message, connection problem and browser fuck up imaginable on my POS laptop and I don't have any problems at all. And FWIW I'm on another swing site that's MUCH more expensive than Swingular and there are just as many people complaining about these issues and more. I know a guy who does I.T. for the other swing site and it's a fucking nightmare trying to deal with every possible combination and configuration of OS, browser, server, and ISP out there. Not downplaying the problems you're having, just sayin' it's kinda like a ginormous swing party with uber hot young cuties, old fat farts, drama ridden noobs, posers, maybe a bunch of polys who don't know they aren't really swingers anymore, and about a thousand creepy single guys from Craigslist and then expecting each and every one of them to just get along famously and then play Twister on a huge Twister mat with a dude who only speaks Mandarin Chinese spinning the spinner and calling out the color and body part combos.[/quote] Oh this was such the proper depitction of the situation... LOL... @Perma-Bachelor: I think it's time to instatute some form of time out for those that can't seem to log off and have no activity going on with the site..

Reply or don't reply for requests to meet? - - Their emotional response probably has more to do with their over all experience with the lifestyle than to anything you said or didn't say did or didn't do. Here goes my thoughts..... People have a hard time emotionally disconnecting. People can be irrational. Sometimes we do not know why the react as they do but then we do not know the back story. They, or we may be associating something they, or we said with a whole lot of experience that had nothing to do with our or their intent. Our primitive brain functions which include release of the chemicals that color emotions have full access to our prefrontal cortex where we have the power of reason. With all the reasoning capability our prefrontal cortex manifest, it has very, very little ability to turn off our more primitive brain. The pathways just are not there. So our primitive brain has full chemical access to our bodies and higher brain but our higher brains do not have equal access to alter our primitive brain and emotional responses. So we have an emotional reaction, which our reasoning cannot turn off, so in order to try and make our minds match the emotion we are feeling we alter our reasoning. It is called making a mountain out of a mole hill. This loss of reason manifests as irrational behavior and can lead to resentment and negative premeditations such as revenge and violence. Sex drive is emotionally charged. Sex chemicals defy reason more than most and so do the chemicals associated with anger. So the brain function design flaw can make the emotion verses reason imbalance more dramatic when sex is involved. Knowing that, Swingers should recognize that just because you feel angry it does not mean you should be angry. If you let negative emotions color your reason you may be acting irrationally. Drama, drama, drama is what you get. Our rational, reasonable minds are capable of unbelievable accomplishments. Through the scientific method we have cured many, many diseases, we fly all over the globe, we travel and live beyond our atmosphere and under the sea, we share and communicate with small hand held devices and we even form internet social groups that revolve around specific shared interest. The sphere of accomplishments is too long a list to name let alone full understand. No one person can understand or master one, one millionth of all that has to be learned and mastered to make all this happen. So we are capable of incomprehensible collaborative efforts. And yet, we fight and we bicker and we accuse and we are sometimes unreasonably suspicious. Reason without emotion is perhaps safe but not much fun. We want to experience emotions with friends and lovers. The secret answer to successful social interaction almost seems to be to master the art of recognizing when something is positive and healthy and then let the flood gates open up jump in and be overwhelmed and if something is just not right to back off physically but to also emotionally disconnect. The something that is just not right, that may be leading you into angry, sad, or fearful paths may be more within you than without as well. If what is inside you is ugly or afraid emotionally and you let that color your reason then that may be all you can see in people and the world without and you get caught in a vortex of anger or fear. People think they become emotional because of their paranoia but in fact they become paranoid because they were negatively emotional and then the paranoia fed the emotions and on and on. I have attached a link to a video I found this week quite by accident that speaks to this and quite a bit more. For you that are into physics professionally or as amateurs, that will enjoy scrutinizing the math, as far as the math goes, to me I see where this is going but the statement is made

Anybody a member of New Horizons Swingers Club in Seattle? - - I have been to New Horizons a few times, what a great place. Wish I could help you out, but I'm not a member either.

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