Setting Boundaries with Bulls

Types of Boundaries to Establish

Physical Boundaries

What acts are included? Excluded? Condom requirements? Kissing? Specific positions or activities? Where on the body is off-limits?

Emotional Boundaries

How much emotional connection are you comfortable with? Is this purely physical or can some friendship develop? How should communication happen between meetings?

Communication Boundaries

Who does the bull communicate with—both partners, primarily one? How often? On what platforms? Is flirty texting okay outside of meetings?

Logistical Boundaries

Where do encounters happen? How often? Can he meet just the wife, or must the husband always be present/aware? What about spontaneous contact?

Having the Conversation

Have the boundary discussion before any play. Both partners should be present. Be direct and specific—don't hint or assume he understands. Ask him to repeat back his understanding to confirm everyone is aligned.

When Boundaries Get Tested

If a bull pushes a boundary during play:

Stop immediately and address it
Be clear: "That's not something we agreed to"
Decide together if you're comfortable continuing
A single boundary push might be a mistake; repeated pushing is a pattern
You can always end the arrangement if boundaries aren't respected

Good Bulls Respect Boundaries

A quality bull doesn't push, negotiate, or guilt you about boundaries. He respects them completely and checks in if he's unsure about something. This is non-negotiable.